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So, my friend Janisa lives here in town. We met when she lost her baby boy at 19 weeks in December. ((I might have told you ladies about her)). Anyway, she was a old friend of my best friend whom I'd never actually met, and Telima gave us each others' contact info when she found out Janisa's Logan had died.
Anyway, Janisa has a 2 1/2 year old daughter, and is pregnant again. She announced yesterday that it's another (healthy!!!) girl, and she got this comment:
"Congrats!! (and, I must say, that I absolutely love having all of the same gender. I wouldn't change it for anything! You're going to love it!)"
I just wanted to slap that lady and say "She's SUPPOSED to have a girl and A BOY!!" But I didn't. Janisa is not as open about her loss as I am and I didn't want to start anything during her happy moment. But it made me mad.
That would make me mad too!!! Kind of reminds me of myself...When people ask what i'm having and I say a boy, and they ask "Oh I bet your so happy to have another boy" and I say "actually I kind of wanted a girl" and they go on and on about how I have 3 girls already and having a boy and brother for Jack is so great...They seem to forget that I had a baby girl die just 20 months ago? It really infuriates me...I wish people would just keep their mouth shut!
those comments piss me off too - but everyone handles loss differently and may not have shared her loss with everyone - a lot of people on my facebook only found out about Rebecca when her angelversary came up
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)
εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз