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Im having such a hard time of late its coming upto 2 years since my little girl left me i really am hurting so bad im lost as what to do to stop the pain im so broken hearted i still cant qiute believe this has happened to me my head is full, full of trying to take it all in its so exhausting feeling like this i mean i just want the pain in my heart to stop i miss her so much its just so exhausting to put up this emotional front and act like im normal and carrying on normal i recently started counselling it helps for a while but dosent set the realisation that my daughter has died. i cant understand how im feeling i just feel so confused right now!
I can relate, my babies 2 year is coming up quick, 6.9.05.
I couldn't imagine I'd be sitting here today still sad, let alone my life would have gone on .
Still with Jm looking for support. And trying to give it.
Going over all the what if's, I don't think I'll ever be satisfied with just letting it be what it was.
I'm glad your are going to have someone to talk to, I always thinks its best, they help sort out your feelings helping the coping process of the loss.
Unfortunately, I don't think it'll ever go away, because you're never going to stop loving your angel. You wouldn't miss her or hurt like that if you didn't love her. It's normal, though, to still hurt. My grandmother lost a baby over 55 years ago. She still cries.
I understand about putting up the emotional front. I'm having a hard time right now, mostly because I'm nearing the point in this pregnancy where I lost Cora and I'm so scared. People just don't understand when you're falling to pieces and they think you should be "over it."
But you don't ever have to be "over it" here. We all understand.
Claire, do you think counseling is helping you? I went to my first therapist appointment today and I don't think I'll go back, at least not the same woman. She was so cold and insensitive, and said the most tactless things. I wouldn't post most of what she said, I'm afraid it would be too upsetting for this forum. When I told her how cute my baby was, she says, "he was?!? wasn't he all blue?" with a confused look on her face. She obviously does not have much experience or training to deal with pregnancy loss. So I'm not sure if I even want to try another therapist. I now feel worse than before I went. Has counseling been helpful for any others?
I am sorry I don't know what to say because I am not at the same point as you. My loss was much more recent. I know that it is ok to take time to "feel" whatever you are feeling. It is ok to be sad, upset, angry, feelings of guilt, even happy at times. The best advice I have heard so far is to just let yourself feel. We all grieve in our own ways, there is no set time limit to grieve. I wish I could give you a great big HUG!!
Thank you Mistyx5 for my siggy.