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March 9th, 2008, 08:21 PM
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DH and I are finally getting back up on our feet. Now that finances are taken care of, I want to TTC again. We are doing better. I feel like money was such a huge burden on us and we fought constantly! I am afraid to say, "Ok, lets TTC." I am terrified of the outcome. I was thinking maybe we won't prevent and won't try so it will be a "surprise".

Ugh, I am scared.00000000000
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March 9th, 2008, 11:37 PM
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For me ttc became so much more stressful. I was charting, temping, opk's, and so on. This caused even more stress. I would say go with your plan to not prevent and let whatever happens happen. I was also told that you are ready to try again when your desire to bring home a baby outweighs the fear. It is a very personal decision, and I am sure you will make the right decision for you. GL and I hope it won't take you long at all.
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March 10th, 2008, 02:22 PM
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We never decided to TTC but we never did anything to prevent pregnancy, either. We decided it would happen in God's time, and that's the way it was. {{{hugs}}} for you... I know it is hard.
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March 10th, 2008, 08:33 PM
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I think just not trying to prevent it is a good idea. What does your husband think? Don't stress if it doesn't happen straight away - I'm sure you'll be subconsciously thinking of it no matter what. Your body will do what it needs to when it's ready

Are you excited about the thought of having another baby?

Good luck and *hugs*
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March 10th, 2008, 11:59 PM
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Kind of. I miss him everyday, especially right before I go to sleep. But I feel like he is going to send me a earth angel. I miss the newborn stage.

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March 11th, 2008, 03:28 AM
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we tried after 10 months of losin jessica it was hard i caught on and sadley had m/c we were trying for a few months after m/c but nothing we said if it happens it happens and caught on a few months later after deciding enough was enough strange how things happen when not really trying im 32 weeks now and it has been the hardest thing apart from losin jessica i have ever had to go throu
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March 11th, 2008, 05:14 PM
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I agree with Rhonda. I wanted a baby SO bad, that it was worth the risk. We had tried for Cora, and she was our first, so we discussed when to try again the night after we found out we lost her, before I was induced. I also want to say that I knew I was ready to TTC again when I was okay with the idea of having another baby, rather than just wanting Cora back so badly.


The not trying but not preventing idea is a good one.


I'm glad that you and DH are more financially stable.
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March 11th, 2008, 06:29 PM
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Hubby and I were talking last night about children, and I realised I want to start trying again now. I'm ready for it.

He wants to wait a bit longer because he wants me to fully recover after my heart surgery, and have some time to myself to work again, get my fitness back and have some fun again. I got pregnant in January last year, lost the baby in September, than had open heart surgery in January. It's been a big year or so!

A part of me wants that as well, and I know I can't have both. I know this is my last chance to work and exercise without having to worry about having a baby at home, but I don't know how much I really care about that.

Decisions, decisions...
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March 11th, 2008, 09:55 PM
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I agree with Rhonda. I wanted a baby SO bad, that it was worth the risk. We had tried for Cora, and she was our first, so we discussed when to try again the night after we found out we lost her, before I was induced. I also want to say that I knew I was ready to TTC again when I was okay with the idea of having another baby, rather than just wanting Cora back so badly.[/b]
Us too... My DH and I knew right away that we wanted to TTC again, probably as soon as possible, given our history of infertility. We can't afford to waste any chances. And though the thought of going through pregnancy scares the heck out of me, it's worth the risk to us. But... yeah, right now I just want Devin back, I don't know how to handle the idea of a different baby. But luckily we have 6 weeks before we're allowed to start TTCing. We'll see where we stand then....

I understand the fear. I don't know how I'll ever stop being scared.
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