Log In Sign Up

someone complaining of stillbirth photo in signature


Forum: Stillbirth

Notices

Welcome to the JustMommies Message Boards.

We pride ourselves on having the friendliest and most welcoming forums for moms and moms to be! Please take a moment and register for free so you can be a part of our growing community of mothers. If you have any problems registering please drop an email to boards@justmommies.com.

Our community is moderated by our moderation team so you won't see spam or offensive messages posted on our forums. Each of our message boards is hosted by JustMommies hosts, whose names are listed at the top each board. We hope you find our message boards friendly, helpful, and fun to be on!

Reply Post New Topic
  Subscribe To Stillbirth LinkBack Topic Tools Search this Topic Display Modes
  #1  
March 15th, 2008, 06:38 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
I am a member of the September 2008 DDC and there is a member in the November DDC that has a stillbirth angel in her photo and a member found it offensive - please read what I wrote and if you feel the need to respond please do.

September 2008 DDC - Signature Complaint
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #2  
March 15th, 2008, 06:46 AM
heathernoel's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Maitland, Florida
Posts: 9,385
This is not my forum, but I wanted to come in and tell you your response was quite controlled. I am offended FOR you...Good God.

There's not a mother worth her salt that should find those pictures offensive. If that's offensive, maybe getting pregnant wasn't the smartest thing she ever did.

I wonder what she'd say if someone told her that her baby looks like that in HER belly.

I am sorry you ladies have to be victimized all over again by ignorant comments like that.
__________________
my thanks to Claire1979 for the awesome siggy!!
Reply With Quote
  #3  
March 15th, 2008, 06:52 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
Thank you
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #4  
March 15th, 2008, 07:01 AM
Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Oct 2006
Posts: 2,632
You know I kind of understand what she was saying, or at least I hope she just meant that it brings up so much fear for her since she is pregnant. I have to be honest when I was pregnant and saw some of the siggies, it freaked me out too, but not in a disgusting way or something. It was the fear of how can you go through a whole pregnancy and have your baby die, and if it happened to them, then it could happen to me thing. I didn't mind the siggies though. Anyways I left a comment too. Some people just don't understand, unless they have been in our shoes.
__________________
Thank you Mistyx5 for my siggy.

Reply With Quote
  #5  
March 15th, 2008, 07:03 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
exactly - I know I am not on this forum a lot and part of is I am pregnant again and scared to death....
thank you for leaving a response
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #6  
March 15th, 2008, 07:22 AM
lizard's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Nov 2005
Posts: 5,479
That was a great response, Jenn. I don't know if I could have controlled myself as well as you did.
__________________







10/31/05 (EDD 5/15/06), 4/17/06 (EDD 11/13/06)
Chemical p/g 1/11/08

















Reply With Quote
  #7  
March 15th, 2008, 07:58 AM
Jaidynsmum's Avatar Dreams do come true....
Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Scotland, UK
Posts: 15,647
Send a message via MSN to Jaidynsmum
I left a response too. I am just glad the member of the November DDC isn't in the OP's DDC. She's going through enough as it is being pregnant again and the fear that that brings without having to read that some people think her child is too much for her siggie.
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #8  
March 15th, 2008, 08:21 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
I did send a PM to the member in the NOV DDC and let her know I defended her.

as for maintaing my control I had to!
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #9  
March 15th, 2008, 08:22 AM
Fluffy Baby's Avatar Platinum Supermommy
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: SW FL
Posts: 8,785
When I seen that members siggy in my DDC, I thought, "Oh what a beautiful baby!" not "OMG how horrible." I am glad that she was not talking about me because I do think I would have been banned for going off on her. I am actually glad it was closed before I could respond too because I don't think I could be as cool as you wonderful ladies were. Especially since I just found out I am preggo and I have all these emtions and fears, which I am sure the other stillborn momma is going thru too. I hope she didn't see that thread. Ignorant people.....
__________________
Leann <3 Hector
My trio: Alyssa 7, Tristan 4.75, Gavin 1.5

I am a mixture of all that and a bag of chips... IJS



Rest In Peace Jennifer <3



Reply With Quote
  #10  
March 15th, 2008, 11:32 AM
PuNkLiVz's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Feb 2007
Location: Miami
Posts: 2,292
there are ways to "block" people on her, and you can't see ANYTHING that is in their siggy, nor anything that they write. The nerve of that woman, she is VERY lucky that I didn't see it because I would have gone off to say the least.
__________________
<div align="center"></div>

<div align="center"></div>
Reply With Quote
  #11  
March 15th, 2008, 11:49 AM
claire1979's Avatar mummy to a special angel
Join Date: Jun 2006
Location: huddersfield, england
Posts: 33,629
Send a message via MSN to claire1979
i will be keeping my pic of my angel on my siggy if this person has a problem they need not look at the siggys im not denying my daughter cause someone else is ''freaked'' out my her pic she is and everyone else angel as beautiful a living child these pics are all i have of her and treasure them all
__________________




Reply With Quote
  #12  
March 15th, 2008, 07:35 PM
Brittanie's Avatar just me
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Littleton, CO
Posts: 43,573
I left another board because they deleted a pic of Cora from my sig because of that reason. They didn't even ask me to do it, they did it FOR me. It's been deleted, I missed it, but I want to say thank you for defending her.
__________________
Thanks to babydoll213 for the siggy! My kids' blog Cora's blog


Reply With Quote
  #13  
March 16th, 2008, 09:05 AM
mommy jenn's Avatar Mega Super Mom2Morgan
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: South Africa
Posts: 2,557
yeah i see its been deleted. i have not had a still born myself but i did miscarry and its you women that have helped me get over this miscarriage, there has got to be no pain like lossing a baby that has a personality. its shocking that someone would not even take the time to think about that sort of thing!!!! why are some people so ignorant and oblivious to life and its ways!!! she will probably have a healthy pregnancy and will never know what it is like to loss something so precious!!! i do not wish what we have been through on her but i do wish she could see it as we do... i pray that God plants a seed in her to realise the things that some women have to endure....
__________________







Reply With Quote
  #14  
March 17th, 2008, 09:12 AM
SarahBethsMommy's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 4,847
It's so sad that people cannot see beyond their own scope of reality into what is for us. I didn't see the thread, but I've heard things like this from many people. The fear of what could be, so don't tell me about your dead baby. I don't think of Bryan Luke as my dead baby... I think of him as my son. Period. It always makes me sad that so many don't see that.
__________________
VIEW MY BLOG



Thank you to AlexAiden Mommy for my beautiful siggie!
Reply With Quote
  #15  
March 17th, 2008, 08:36 PM
Veteran
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 328
Quote:
I don't think of Bryan Luke as my dead baby... I think of him as my son. Period. It always makes me sad that so many don't see that.[/b]
I couldn't have said it better!!!

The post is deleted, but I'm pretty sure this is like that happened to me...
I had a similar situation and took a break from JM for a while back in late 2005/early 2006 because I got some messages from people in the Baby Names forums telling me my pictures of my son Asher were "inappropriate" (but in more offensive language). I had someone tell me that his name was stupid and that I shouldn't have even been allowed to name him! You'd be surprised how rude people are...
The freaking nerve... and now most of them have Asher on their lists for baby names HONESTLY... after telling me it was dumb. See, this is why I mostly just lurk now.
I don't put any pictures in my siggy anymore because of it. It's sad that it had to come to that... I just get upset whenever I hear things like this happen to other people!
__________________
-Kristen
needs to make a siggy!!!
Reply With Quote
  #16  
March 20th, 2008, 09:42 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
if you look back we had this discussion in 2006 with Just Mommies and we got the right to have our babies in our signatures
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #17  
March 20th, 2008, 10:17 AM
Mom 2 Avery's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 1,611
Send a message via MSN to Mom 2 Avery Send a message via Yahoo to Mom 2 Avery
Winning the Battle of Angel Pictures is one of the things I'm proudest of Avery for!!!
It seems that someone thought Avery's picture was too graphic...

I'm sorry we're going thru this again...but I know they'll do the right thing!!!

Don't let them get to you...just pray they never have to walk in our shoes!!!!

Always with love!
Dawna
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #18  
March 20th, 2008, 10:21 AM
Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy's Avatar Super Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Beaverbank, Nova Scotia
Posts: 19,417
Send a message via MSN to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy Send a message via Yahoo to Ben,Logan&Kaitlin'sMommy
I agree compltely hun!
I have missed you
__________________
Jenn
Marsha's Girlfriend

My Kiddos
Chloe (14),
Benjamin (9)
Logan (6), Kaitlin (3)



εϊз Some People Dream of Angels But I Held One In My Arms εϊз
Rebecca Lee Stillborn 10-30-03
Reply With Quote
  #19  
March 20th, 2008, 11:19 AM
Mom 2 Avery's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Houston, TX
Posts: 1,611
Send a message via MSN to Mom 2 Avery Send a message via Yahoo to Mom 2 Avery
I'm here EVERY DAY...can't live without my JM!!!!
How are you doing and feeling? Hope all is well!
d
__________________
Reply With Quote
  #20  
March 20th, 2008, 07:44 PM
mommy4micandella's Avatar Proud wife and momma!!
Join Date: Sep 2007
Location: Western MD
Posts: 3,634
Send a message via AIM to mommy4micandella Send a message via Yahoo to mommy4micandella
I have never experienced a loss, and lurk on this board occasionally, and I am appalled that ANYONE who has ever been pregnant would be offended by the beautiful angel baby pictures. they are your children regardless of where they are, here or in heaven.
if they dont like the pictures, dont look at them!!

ALL of your angels are beautiful, and thats why i come here to read.....
love to all of you......
__________________
Missy
mom to Michaela & Ella


Reply With Quote
Reply

Topic Tools Search this Topic
Search this Topic:

Advanced Search
Display Modes

Posting Rules
You may not post new threads
You may not post replies
You may not post attachments
You may not edit your posts

BB code is On
Smilies are On
[IMG] code is On
HTML code is Off
Trackbacks are Off
Pingbacks are Off
Refbacks are Off



All times are GMT -7. The time now is 01:14 PM.



Powered by vBulletin® Version 3.8.7
Copyright ©2000 - 2014, vBulletin Solutions, Inc.
Search Engine Optimization by vBSEO 3.6.0