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October 26th, 2013, 02:14 PM
208mama's Avatar Veteran
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I feel like such a little brat even posting about this...but I am having a rough time right now feeling insecure. DH does not drink but he runs a busy college bar downtown. He gets home at 4am Wednesday-Saturday. He is around drunk girls...and guys... all the time.

Tonight is hard for me because it's just tons of girls dressed scandalous running around downtown. I felt confident before I was pregnant and haven't had any major issues with his line of work.. But now that I am gaining weight, feeling fat... I feel jealous and insecure. I'm kind of being a brat but it's not fair to him because right now he is supporting our entire family, working hard. Arghh.. I just need to get a grip and I'm only going to get fatter from here on out so I need to figure out how to just deal with it....

Tyler Jean:9 Jamisen Ryan: 6 Jaxyn Lily: 7

Isla Elizabeth - 4/28/14
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October 26th, 2013, 02:22 PM
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I think feeling insecure during pregnancy is normal...I am def. feeling less attractive! I'm sure it will get worse as I get bigger too...DH doesn't seem to care because he's always pestering me to DTD....every single night, no joke. Where was this libido when we were ttc?!

I don't know how to say this without sounding creepy but from your pics I don't think you have anything to worry about
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October 26th, 2013, 03:01 PM
MommaBean18's Avatar Gabe & Mason's Mommy
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I'm sure you have nothing to worry about
Feeling fat and insecure is (unfortunately) part of the process!

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October 26th, 2013, 03:29 PM
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I feel like society tells us that as a pregnant woman, you are supposed to feel glowing and beautiful, you are creating life! Love and embrace your changing body! --- that being said, I cannot stand being pregnant, I feel fat and undesirable, I feel like my husband is a good looking guy and gets a lot of attention... That makes me mad ad jealous when I am pregnant. [eventho he comes home and tells me I'm beautiful and he loves me] I think for some women they love the pregnancy attention... I want to hide in a dark room for 8 months, and a few more while I lose the baby weight and can feel like me again.

Relax tho, you ARE beautiful and you make beautiful babies! You have nothing to worry about gorgeous!
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October 28th, 2013, 09:53 AM
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Don't feel like a brat. We all get this at some point or another. My husband is in IT, so he worked almost exclusively with men, and I still worried from time to time.

Thank you Vicki for my awesome siggy!!

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October 28th, 2013, 11:45 AM
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I am here with you too! A couple weeks ago, I felt insanely jealous of this new married woman that works with DH. I've never even met the woman and I felt jealous.

I really thought pregnancy would be glowing and fun, but I feel nowhere close to glowing. I feel fatter and oilier than ever. Not to mention I feel like a wuss for feeling so tired, out of breath, and just a debbie downer on things.

Our last day in Vegas last week, DH wanted to go out gambling a little more after our 7pm show. By the end of the show (8pm), I couldn't manage to do anything else. I felt so incredibly guilty for wanting to go back to the hotel to sleep on our last night in Vegas. I kept trying to get DH to drop me off and head out on his own, but he wouldn't leave my side, which made me feel even worse. I was in tears and actually mad at him for not leaving me at the hotel to finish up his last night of fun.

Lucas Xavier is here! Born 4/24/2014 at 10:47pm
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