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December 15th, 2013, 06:08 PM
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A friend of mine, who's 10 years younger (19), is about 12 weeks pregnant. I met her last year while I was in the Air Force. She's more mature than most 19 year olds, but I'm starting to get angry over how she's talking about her baby. She got pregnant by a fling she had with a guy, accidentally got pregnant, didn't want the baby, but he's insisting on her keeping it. Ok, fine. She actually is willing to give custody to him. But what makes me angry is that all she does is complain and has NEVER said one good thing about it-- saying she hates the baby and what it's putting her through, just before she said she has uterus pressure and that the baby is an a-hole for doing that to her. Seriously/?? it pisses me off! I told her it's not like the baby understands she's hurting and is intentionally doing it. There are so many people who have been trying for years to conceive, and she's being very ungrateful, along with bringing a baby into this world who will grow up in a broken home.
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December 15th, 2013, 06:31 PM
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I have called this baby a jerk and said it must hate me... joking around because honestly when you are so so sick all you can do is joke about how sucky it is. Is it possible she is kidding?

If not, shes a dumb@ss... she got her self knocked up. The baby wasnt involved in her decision making during her one night stand.
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December 15th, 2013, 06:38 PM
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Sounds like she's being immature but she's in a hard situation. I know there are moments when I'm not thrilled with my little bean. I love him but I cannot wait to not be pregnant. Pregnancy sucks IMO but it shouldn't be taken out on the baby!!! He is an innocent participant!
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December 15th, 2013, 06:46 PM
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She's serious... and while I can understand the tough situation she's in, she should have been more careful about it too. It wasn't a one night stand luckily, she was with him for maybe a month, but still. She's lucky he wants the baby. Most guys at 19 would want nothing to do with it. At 19 I was using protection all the time, and that was with a boyfriend I'd had for about a year. Part of me wanted a baby already, but I knew it was too early. Thank god I didn't, because comparing myself then to now is a lifetime. Even when I had the worst morning sickness and the worst soreness, I still wouldn't ever call my baby a name like that. I really believe the baby can sense how you feel about it, and will affect how they are once they're born.
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when I call him a jerk i mean it in the most loving way possible
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December 15th, 2013, 07:17 PM
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when I call him a jerk i mean it in the most loving way possible

lol well that's different, you're being playful.
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December 15th, 2013, 07:34 PM
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My little girl is rude and disagreeable. That said. So is her sister. So it must be a family trait. Lol =]
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December 15th, 2013, 08:17 PM
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Wait until labor....if she's annoyed now.....
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December 15th, 2013, 08:41 PM
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She sounds very ungrateful (no offense). I got pregnant with DS at 18, and luckily with the guy I'd been with for 2 years at that time. Still, I loved that kid from the moment I knew about him, even when he was beating the crap out of me. There's no reason to be such a jerk to your kid. Even if it's not born yet. Being a young parent is tough, but it's her decision to have unprotected sex and she needs to take responsibility...IMO...Rant over! Sorry!

Maybe she's just scared of what the future holds for her and is just trying to get it across the only way she knows how. Is she normally a whiny kind of person or really reasonable?
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December 16th, 2013, 06:17 AM
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Well, it takes two to tango. The guy is just as much to blame in this situation as she is.
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December 16th, 2013, 07:03 AM
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I really hope baby isn't effected by your emotions while pregnant because I'm screwed- I have never been so stressed in my life!!! That said- my little baby was planned, is loved and looked forward to

I hope she comes to peace with it- whatever she does with her baby, will effect her for the rest of her life just as much as it will effect the baby :/
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December 16th, 2013, 09:16 AM
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Hopefully everything will change when she sees her baby. Otherwise, maybe she needs to be watched and health and welfare needs to be alerted if she's still feeling hostile.

For my mom, abortion was the only option when I got pregnant at 19. She was very upset to find out that it wasn't an option for me… Today she jokes that her name should be gram-reaper. (: My 9 year old daughter is now her LIFE!!!
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December 16th, 2013, 10:16 AM
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I've had 3 miscarriages so when a woman acts so ungrateful for being pregnant, it really annoys me. Like others have said, the baby had no choice in her decisions. If you can't live the the consequences, don't open your legs.

When baby hurts me, I just tell DH to talk to his son lol.
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December 16th, 2013, 06:36 PM
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She sounds very ungrateful (no offense). I got pregnant with DS at 18, and luckily with the guy I'd been with for 2 years at that time. Still, I loved that kid from the moment I knew about him, even when he was beating the crap out of me. There's no reason to be such a jerk to your kid. Even if it's not born yet. Being a young parent is tough, but it's her decision to have unprotected sex and she needs to take responsibility...IMO...Rant over! Sorry!

Maybe she's just scared of what the future holds for her and is just trying to get it across the only way she knows how. Is she normally a whiny kind of person or really reasonable?

No need to be sorry, I agree. She's a friend, and I only met her a year ago over a week's span of time. Not a person I know a lot about, but since we were in the same dorm in basic training, I did live with her 24/7 for a week. She was always happy go lucky and joking around. Which is why I'm surprised she's being like this. I can sympathize for her and how she feels, but you're right, it takes 2 to tango and she should have been more careful. I've known/seen people in similar situations as her, and they naturally loved the baby regardless. I worry about this baby once he's born.
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