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My friend came all the way back from Oregon to visit me for break (yay!) and we've been having a really fun time. She just turned 21, so she's been drinking lately, but I just assumed that she wouldn't while she was with me. Tonight her and DF decided to go to the store and get some alcohol and get smashed. I don't really want to drink, but I guess I just feel left out that I don't have the option, does that make sense? Anyone else having issues?
I dont drink often at all, even when I have the chance its usually only happens a few times a year. OF COURSE when you cant do it you wish you could. I have had a wedding, a fancy dinner party and a huge xmas party that I have now had to be sober for and it sucked
I don't wish I could at all. And that's coming from someone who really enjoys having a drink or two...sometimes three. Even when I am around it, I don't wish I could have a glass of wine. I actually hate watching people get drunk, pregnant or not. But that's just me. Granted, when I was younger and pregnant...I did always want things I couldn't have.
Sometimes a glass of wine sounds good to me too. We were out to lunch with my in laws and they and DH all had wine with their meal...I obviously didn't. I didn't really want it but it was kind of awkward to toast with my water glass. lol
Glad I'm not the only one I don't drink anyways, I just always want what I can't have haha!
Also I guess I'm just feeling like she was a bit inconsiderate. I would totally understand if we were out with a group of friends or at a holiday party or something, but it was literally just the three of us at my house..
That is very rude of them, I agree! And I totally understand the "want it 'cause you can't have it" feeling.
When I was pregnant with my first I had a tiny (2 oz) glass of wine with my dinner a few times a week and sometimes like a third of my husband's beer. 100 percent safe according to my midwives and all the studies I read (and trust me, I read them all!) However, interestingly I've found this time that I have no interest at all. I'll have a sip of my husband's wine now and then to taste one if I haven't had it before, but that's about it. But then, I'm really weird about food generally this time. I basically only want to eat oranges and broccolli. :-) Perhaps I'm growing a naturally healthy eater who will never want to drink! Wouldn't that be nice.
You said your DF was in on this too? Are you upset at him, too, or just your friend? And they were hanging out at your home, not going out to a bar or whatever and leaving you behind?
I can see why you feel a bit left out, but I don't think they were astonishingly rude or anything. Especially if they are still at your home, not abandoning you. Just my opinion. I'm a lot older than 21 so kind of out of that new-to-drinking world. Coming from the hostess perspective, I offer my friends and visitors drinks, even if I myself am not partaking.
I think this is one of those things that pricks you, but it's up to you to decide how much you really want it to affect your friendship.
To me the rude part is not a bit of social drinking but that they specifically chose "getting smashed" as an activity while hanging out with a pregnant woman. Of course I'm terribly terribly old so I would be annoyed by such behavior of a friend visiting me even if I weren't pregnant!
Thanks for the sympathies I was also just a bit grouchy with these mood swings, but I'm feeling much better now. We had a nice dinner last night and went to see a play and my bristles aren't rubbed the wrong way any longer haha.
I like to drink sprite and grenadine Or sprite and orange juice. They remind me of the fruity drinks I enjoy out at the bars but in an NA version. I haven't had a problem at all, and after my first baby my favorite alcohols were no longer favorites... weird I'd say
My OB and RE were fine with me having a small glass of wine once in a while, but it does not taste good to me at all. If we go out in a group I ask for a fun mocktail..but I dislike hanging out with anyone just drinking to get drunk..must be my age!
Glad you are feeling better and enjoying time with your friend!
I have been craving moscato. I've had a 4 oz drink a few months ago and the craving has come back lol. I have also been craving beer but that craving isn't going to get satisfied, I don't like it much lol.