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...will mine be? She just told me that with me (middle child), she went to her 12 p.m. weekly appt where her OB told her she was 3cm dilated. She felt nothing, but he sent her home to pack and get to the hospital. I was born at 5:55 p.m. From first feeling contractions until birthing my older sister, it was 7 hours. My younger sister was born at 27 weeks; things moved quickly after she had bad back labor and they couldnt stop her contractions.
So should I be nervous? Mention it to my midwife maybe?
I hope that there is for my sake haha. I don't know how long my mom was in labor with my older sister but with me (middle child) it went really fast...like 2 or 3 hours fast. My dad was out buying Christmas presents that morning and she started having contractions. Of course since it was the 80's she really had no way of getting ahold of him. When he got back they rushed to the hospital and I was born 20 minutes later. My first labor was ridiculously long so it would be nice if this baby came pretty quickly like I did!
ETA: I also think it has a lot to do with what position the baby is in and other factors. They say usually subsequent labors are shorter than the first but I have a friend that had a longer second labor.
Location: Bossier City, Louisiana(missing Aviano, Italy)
I don't know how long my first labor was. I didn't realize I was in labor probably until I was close to transition. My daughter was born about 2 hours after getting to the hospital. My second was about 9 hours from my water partially breaking to birth. My third my water broke at 10/11pm I didn't go in until 8am and had him 6 hours after that. My fourth was an induction. Just over 3 hours from getting to the hospital to having him.
My sister had a 36 hour labor before needing an emergency c section. The only girl in our family to get one so far. My mom doesn't remember her labors. So I can't go off of those.
Yeah I have to agree with the other ladies, I think each woman and each labor are very different. My mother had to have an emergency c section with me ( planned for my sister) she was in labor for an extreme amount of time and I just refused to move along. My sister and I both had fairly short labors that didn't end in a c section.
Honestly, you know what I think has a decent amount to do with it? The whole fear thing that seems to be pushed on ladies more nowadays. It's like we are all supposed to be terrified of labour: of what happens, of how much it hurts, the loss of control, the "requirement" of pain management. Not to mention the whole side of pain management where you worry of it might be too soon or you leave it too long and can't have something. I know it isn't necessarily going to mean a quick labour going in with a clear head but I do believe that if you go in not trusting yourself and your body and fighting against the process (not purposefully) that labour will be longer and harder. If you are busy being terrified then how can you get into "woo let's do this!" mode?��
Unfortunately, I don't think it's too reliable to rely on your mother's experience. My mom had four kids, with relatively quick labors, and all were induced. She said she never had to push more than 20 minutes I think. I had DS at 38 weeks, but I was in labor for 17 hours, pushing for two and threw up constantly (mom never did). My mom and most of the women in my family also hemorrhaged pretty bad, but I didn't thank goodness.. I think the experience just varies woman to woman :/
LOL the thing about labor is that no matter what you do, what happened to your mother (or your best friend), or even what happened during your last birth - the whole event is pretty much unpredictable The only certainty is that the baby WILL come out one way or the other!!!