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i think id change jessicas passing but if shed had lived keeley may/prolly wouldnt be here and i couldnt imagine my life without her this is a hard question for me cause i feel guilty for saying i would change the past and change things but then i feel guilty for saying i wouldnt change the past iukwim?
Well we have no idea where Landan got Meningitis from, but if I could go back in time I would want to know where he got it so we never took him their. And I would have taken him to the hospital the night before and hopefully they would have caught it sooner.
I'm not really sure what I would change because with Drake having a genetic disorder there wasn't really much I could do about that except possibly having him with a different man. I used to with I could change that but now I don't (on most days lol).
If I could change anything I wouldnt be posting here, I would have made those nurses do the propert bloodwork somehow, if they had of done the bloodwork and found that I was a group b strep carrier maybe things would have been different and Rennon would have had a better chance
One of the lessons that I've learned in grief is that you can't change anything. I've thought of it many times, and I have a laundry list of answers, however, I'm in the part of my healing that I no longer think retroactively.
I'm sorry you feel that way. My grief counselor tells me it's not living retroactively, it's remembering a significant and severe loss in your life and it's always ok to grieve. Unless you feel your grief is running your life, than you may be getting depression.
I will always remember my son. None of us can physically go back in time, it was just a hypothetical question. And for me, if I could go back in time I'd love to see all of my deceased family members just one more time. Not to try to stop their death, but to remember just how much I loved them and still do love them.
That's just my opinion.