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February 17th, 2014, 05:50 PM
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Just wondering if people still do surprise showers anymore. I haven't had anyone approach me about a shower yet, and I am starting to wonder. I don't want a big fling, and this is my second (although my first will be 7), but I would love to have a bunch of friends just get together. I feel funny planning something, and am sort of wondering if maybe there will be a surprise shower. I haven't ever been to one where tha mama didn't know in advance. Does anyone think they will have a surprise shower or have you been to one?
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February 17th, 2014, 07:07 PM
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A surprise shower was originally being planned by my MIL until my friends asked to throw it and I said ok.
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February 18th, 2014, 08:39 AM
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A friend and I threw a surprise shower for another friend when she had her son. She didn't feel comfortable asking for a shower (even though it was her first) because she hadn't known us very long and she was having a shower with her pre-DH friends back home.

We planned it at my house and invited our "crew", guys and gals invited - the guys had to bring diapers and girls had to bring things for a baby boy. She was totally surprised (and I think really touched!) so it does still happen.

I would oh-so-casually mention to a friend or two that you'd like to have friends get together for a lunch/evening/etc before baby comes, and see how they react
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February 18th, 2014, 08:41 AM
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I find it really depends on the group.

My in-laws are all about including the shower guest-of-honour in the plans (at least for bridal) - whereas my side is all about making it a surprise.

I would put some hints out there and see if anyone bites.
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February 18th, 2014, 07:08 PM
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I asked SO tonight if any if his friends (who are mainly female) had mentioned anything and he said "no, and I wouldn't really think they would throw one", but I am not so sure. I know he has known at least 3 older women who have been very much like surrogate mothers to him over the last 3 years who are over the moon about this baby. I don't know them as well, but I think I might say something very casually, or have him drop a hint that a small get together would be nice.

Thanks for the advice!
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February 19th, 2014, 05:51 AM
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I threw a semi-surprise shower for a friend last year. I knew she just wanted a small little party to celebrate her pregnancy. I needed to invite her family (who I hardly know) so it wasn't exactly a surprise but she knew nothing aside from needing to show up at my house.

It's still early. Plans may be in the works. My workmates have asked a few times if I'm having a shower and I've said no. I for realz don't need or want anything. If my friends throw me something I'll be honored and happy but I won't be dissapointed if they don't. I plan to throw a small "you get to meet baby if you bring me food" party this summer.
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February 19th, 2014, 10:13 AM
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lol - Erin, you simply *must* put that title on the invites and/or FB event page.
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February 19th, 2014, 10:52 AM
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i never had one. but actually for this time around, i caught my BFF attempting to plan one and i had to foil it. reason being is that she wanted one with just friends (which i have no problem with).

but if the inlaws found out i had a shower that they weren't invited to (and with it being a suprise it would have been no fault of my own, but i still would be blamed) it would literally, no question be WW3. i told her if she wanted to plan one, then (unfortunately) she would have to include the inlaws and she said she really didn't feel comfortable planning such a big party (compared to just having friends) so i told her i would be perfectly content w/o a shower.
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