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I was at a lunch today with a friendly acquaintance who was dining with my girlfriend and I. During lunch she asked how far along I was. When I told her 17 weeks, her immediate response was to tell me (a high risk patient) that at 17 weeks her water broke prematurely with her last (2nd) baby and she had a late-term miscarriage. She also commented that to this day she doesn't know why it happened. She was completely healthy and had no symptoms of an impending miscarriage.
To make matters worse, I came home and saw an episode of 19 Kids and Counting, which just so happened to be the episode where the Duggards' lost baby (#20 at 16-17 weeks) died. I know in her case she was 42 and had pre-eclampsia, but now considering the two seperate experiences I heard about today I can't help but feel paranoid.
Anyone else feeling paranoid at this stage of the game of a late-term miscarriage? I feel like this worry won't pass until the baby is past 24 weeks gestation and is considered viable outside the womb. Does anyone know how common or rare this even is?
At this point, I am assuming there would have to be a serious birth defect, infection, or something wrong with my cervix in order for this to even happen. Nevertheless, every time I feel a cramp or twinge my mind goes to the worse place.
Help me get out of this fun so I can enjoy this little girl!
Ugh, I hate when people tell things like that to pregnant women. Pregnancy is stressful enough and most of us are aware of the many things that can go wrong, but we don't need to hear about it right now.
Shift your focus to happy pregnancies...pop into the April and May DDCs to read about the new babies who just arrived and see their cute photos. Also check out the pregnancy forums here...several have subforums with inspiring childbirth stories. Or watch something fun...I saw this when it came out and loved it: Amazon.com: Babies: Bayar, Hattie, Mari, Ponijao: Amazon Instant Video
I have never heard of anyone that lost a baby after having hyperemesis generally while it makes you very sick is an indicator of a healthy baby. I had it with my son and he is almost 4 years old and has been sick maybe 5 times in his life. He has an incredible immune system. I dunno if it is related to that lol but it's an awesome thought
I think it isnt very common. I think it is normal to worry. I worry right now because my tsh number is so low...and that means I am very hyperthyroid which isnt good for the baby. I started meds but worry that they are not helping my number enough.
Baby due 10/27/14
Focus on your precious baby girl and nothing else. Were all going to start feeling kicks if we haven't yet which is so reassuring and exciting. Im sorry she had to put that in your head! But I wouldn't worry at all! Just think of how amazing your baby girl will be once she is here!
Honestly, I wouldn't worry about it. We all know that it happens, but the chance is quite low. Even with my previous loss, I'm not worried about miscarriage at all now. Once I cross about 14 weeks, all that fear went away. I have CKD so I do still worry about growth restriction, placenta problems, and defects, but I try and keep my mind off of it. Once I have my anatomy scan, my mind will be at ease either way.