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May 12th, 2014, 07:47 PM
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I will start by saying my MIL is wonderful and really helps us out a lot in so many ways.

But ****it she's driving me NUTS!


The other day I posted a picture of rainbow pants I bought this baby and posted something like "rainbow pants for our rainbow baby" or something along those lines. I guess today when DH was at their house she kept bugging him asking what a rainbow baby is. He said he didn't know (he doesn't). Then tonight when I go over after work, she asks me so I tell her and she gets MAD! Saying I need to be respectful of her and watch what I post on FB blah blah. Seriously? For saying I'm having a rainbow baby? Woman's enough to make me wanna drink!
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May 12th, 2014, 08:05 PM
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That's ridiculous. I can see my (almost) MIL saying something like that.
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May 12th, 2014, 09:07 PM
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To be respectful of who? HER?! I didn't realize you having a miscarriage was disrespectful to her

Sorry she is acting like that!
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May 12th, 2014, 11:48 PM
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I eyerolled so hard I nearly sprained an eye. Way to make it about her. Just ignore her momma! You enjoy your rainbow baby and post what you want! It is your Fb after all!
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May 13th, 2014, 04:44 AM
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Wow I don't understand how that could be disrespectful to her.... some people just get mad when they don't understand something lol maybe she felt embarrassed about not knowing what a rainbow baby is and that's why she was going on about nonsense .

I seriously don't understand how else that can have anything to do with her!
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May 13th, 2014, 05:16 AM
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What the cuss? How does that make her mad?

I would have told her to consider removing me from her news feed because there might be more rainbow pictures coming.
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She must not understand the term "rainbow baby." I can't imagine why she would be worried about it. Thats silly!
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May 13th, 2014, 06:45 AM
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Not sure why that was *'d out. It was only d-a-m-n. Apparently it's "disrespectful" to remind everyone of the lost baby. I could understand if someone else lost a baby and I brought it up but it was my baby. Who knows with that woman!
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May 13th, 2014, 11:25 AM
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Maybe she thought rainbow being gay or lesbian term? does she have issues with gay rights? I just cant make a connection as to why she would be mad over rainbow items....Did you explain to her what a rainbow baby was?
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May 13th, 2014, 11:32 AM
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Maybe she thought rainbow being gay or lesbian term? does she have issues with gay rights? I just cant make a connection as to why she would be mad over rainbow items....Did you explain to her what a rainbow baby was?


This?
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I didnt mean it in a bad way at all - dont know if thats how it came out?

Some people who have issues with gay rights dont like using rainbows because of how its used to represent LGBT. I was just curious if maybe she does, and was offended because it was rainbow colored....

....I feel I need to insert my foot in my mouth now.
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ok well I apparently said something wrong - I was just trying to help. I really didnt mean anything bad by it - I was just trying to help find a reason why her MIL would be upset. I apologize to everyone for what I said.
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May 13th, 2014, 02:38 PM
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It hard to understand why some people get insulted for things that don't affect them, my mom can be that way at times. I don't think she understands that it's a healing term and meant as a positive thing.

I liked the rainbow pants btw!

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ok well I apparently said something wrong - I was just trying to help. I really didnt mean anything bad by it - I was just trying to help find a reason why her MIL would be upset. I apologize to everyone for what I said.

I get what you were trying to say and don't think you meant anything wrong by it.
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ok well I apparently said something wrong - I was just trying to help. I really didnt mean anything bad by it - I was just trying to help find a reason why her MIL would be upset. I apologize to everyone for what I said.


You didn't say anything wrong. I get what you were saying and I was wondering the same thing...if she was associating rainbow with LGBT somehow.


Anyway, apparently she comes from a generation of ladies that don't want to talk about/know about/think about losses.
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May 13th, 2014, 03:35 PM
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I really don't get how that is disrespectful to her? I remember seeing that post and thinking it was really cute!

People seem to really love making things about them. I would try not to think too much about it. It sounds like maybe she just misunderstood what you meant.

Also, Bethy, I didn't see anything offensive about your post - I never read it that way at all Just for the record.
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May 13th, 2014, 04:52 PM
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Thanks guys - Amelya's post where she quoted me and didnt explain if she was agreeing or disagreeing really threw me off.....I really thought I had stepped on some major toes!! Good to hear thats not how it came off.
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Wow, wonder what her issues is? Though I could see my MIL being the same way. When I miscarried Juliet's twin last pregnancy, she actually told me that my miscarriage was harder on HER than me. And I wasn't being considerate of how it affected her. ***.
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May 15th, 2014, 07:53 PM
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Bethy, I knew exactly what you meant. And honestly, I thought that's what a rainbow baby was when people kept talking about them in posts I would see in my last DDC and while stalking other DDC's. I finally pieced it together after a while. I'm certainly not trying to offend anyone here. I had only ever seen rainbows as a symbol for LGBT so I simply didn't know any better. My guess is that she is thinking her friends will think the same thing. Not that she should make it about her by any stretch!!
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