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December 6th, 2012, 07:33 AM
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I told him that a few of you mommas were scheduling your inductions and that I can't believe it's time already.

He told me that I needed to get my induction scheduled. I reminded him politely that I don't want to be induced and that I want to go natural this time all on my own. I am not saying I am going all natural for the entire birth, but I want to labor at home for as long as I can and it will sound weird, but I want to "experience" my birth not just rush it this time. It is for sure my last time ever doing it and even though there is pain it is a magical experience.

He told me I am being ridiculous and difficult and that things would be a lot easier on planning for the care of our other 2 kids while I am in labor, his work schedule, my maternity leave, and our income tax return if she were born the last week in the year.

He doesn't get my reasons at all for not wanting to be induced and frankly I don't even think he is trying to understand. It doesn't matter though. I am NOT changing my mind and he will just have to suck it up. Birth by my body is going to be done my way this time. I am not budging on it.
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December 6th, 2012, 07:38 AM
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Ugh, what a pain. You already have two, so I'm sure he's noticed that there's nothing convenient after the baby is born, so why should one expect the birth to be conveniently on your clock, too? There are so many health reasons to let your baby be born when it's ready to be born, healthy for you and for your baby. (Medical issues aside, of course. There are plenty of medical contingencies that make induction necessary, but it doesn't sound like any of those reasons are on his list.)

Sounds like you already know this already, so I'm just commiserating. Sorry you have to deal with this conversation.

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December 6th, 2012, 07:44 AM
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It's tough for sure trying to convey the woman's wants while still trying to satisfy the whole situation. I whole heatedly hope you get your natural birth.

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December 6th, 2012, 08:05 AM
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Sometimes men just don't understand this kind of stuff. Maybe after he cools off a bit, you can explain the differences medically nessacary inductions, planned inductions, etc.
I'm getting induced tomorrow- but it's definitely not for the reason of convienience! It's medically nessacary. Otherwise, I would want no other way than to let labor begin naturally on its own when the time it's right.
And really... Even with a planned induction, everything is still chaotic! We are still scrambling to figure out DD1's child care plans.
I wouldn't give in to him either, this is your body. Your choice!

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December 6th, 2012, 08:15 AM
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You really shouldn't induce unless it is medically nec. anyway........just telll him that!
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December 6th, 2012, 08:20 AM
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I am glad you are sticking to your guns...DH will have to deal...I like your thinking.

There are plenty of articles out there that talk about why you shouldn't induce unless medically necessary...find some of those, and have him read them...maybe that will help him understand from a different perspective, rather than hearing it from you?
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