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Is it true that if u are not able to dialate in your first pregnancy, that that is going to happen in your next pregnancy? Nurse told me if u are not dialating once u will not be able dialate at all the next time.
It depends. Some doctors say that because they don't want the patient to try a VBAC. My one friend ended up with three c-sections because she didn't dilate with her first. Then the doctor also told her not to get pregnant again because it was too much of a risk to have a fourth c-section, so she had her tubes tied.
I think every pregnancy/labor is different so anything is possible? Babies size/position, placenta, fluid levels, etc. are all different.
Some doctors allow vbac, but do not support them (I learned that the hard way). They try to break you down so you decide it's not worth it. If a vbac is really important to you, do your own research of the pros, cons, and risks so you can decided for yourself. My reasons for vbacing are far more than just because c-section recovery sucks. (And despite my last dr.'s many attempts to push me out of it, I had a successful vbac and it was 100% worth it!)
Personally, I would rather try to see if I dilate. If I don't dilate, I get a c-section, but at least I would have the peace of knowing I did what I could to avoid it.
From what I've always understood, all pregnancies are different, so who knows. I didnt progress at all with DD#1 (no contractions, dilation, effacement, ect) but with this one I've had braxton hicks since 30 weeks and at 33 weeks my cervix was starting to do soften and move forward. I think they are checking me again tomorrow (36w/3d) for dilation.