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Tonight kinda sucked....I cried after my brother showed me pictures of his little ones nursery (my SIL is due next week)
As some/ most know as of right now my SO and I live with my parents... we ran into a little bit of a money situation when he got laid off and we are trying to bounce back and get our own place...
When I told my father I was pregnant he told me the little room next to our room could be her nursery which was so exciting for me... then a few months went by and he changed his mind... he said that it's now the laundry room.. soo our room is LOs room and we have to cram everything in... we weren't going to set up the crib but we decided to so we could use it as storage... our room looks like a mess 24/7 because we have so much and very little space... I just wish we had more room for our LO and I felt better about it instead of all her stuff being piled and stuffed everywhere I would love to have it set up cutely and feel proud of it
Sorry for the rant, just looking at pictures of my brothers LOs nursery hit hard.
Sorry it's got you down. I can understand why you'd feel that way! I don't really have any good suggestions, other than just trying to make the best of the space you have, and using this a motivation to work toward the future you want to have.
When I was pregnant with my son we lived in a tiny one bedroom apartment. We started house hunting and planned on buying a house but we decided I'd stay home and then my husband took a different job to take over our insurance and support us all without my income. That job made him miserable, it took a toll on our marriage. We took a leap of faith decided to stay in the tiny apartment, put off buying a house, he quit that job and for a short time no one was employed. I hated not having a nursery. I hated not having room to set up his crib etc. I hated looking at all the nurseries all my friends had. Looking at the nurseries everyone on his expecting club had done made me sad.
Fast forward 6 years later we have a better house than we could ever have bought or were looking at then. Our relationship is better off because we are both happy in what we do everyday. I appreciate what we have now much more because we worked hard to get where we are. I have also learned even when we had room for a crib and a nursery we didn't need and or use it. I had much more fun decorating their big kid rooms than a nursery they outgrow so quickly that we never use. Just MY 2 cents and I know I'm in the minority here but I just find the whole nursery not needed. No offense to everyone else. I know everyone loves putting together and decorating the nursery.
Anywho, believe me I "get it" but I'll tell you I wouldn't trade any of it and 3 kids later still no nursery I couldn't be happier and we are far better off than we ever imagined possible. You just never know how things will end up!
When my daughter was born we only had 1 bedroom so our daughter shared a room with us and it felt full of random stuff. I was a little sad to not have a separate nursery space but that time went by so quickly. This time we do have a room for the baby but we have been using it for an office/ extra storage. I don't think that we will ever have a cute nursery and I am okay with that. I love looking at pictures of other people's nurseries but that just isn't our reality.
Nursery's not all that big of a deal. I know it might seem like it is, but its really not. Just remember that a baby to snuggle is much more awesome than a pretty'd up room that the kid will have outgrown before it learns to appreciate =)
I agree with nameetog too on the 'much more fun decorating a big kid room.
I agree with some of the other ladies, they really aren't all that necessary. We have a room for the baby, but the only decorations we have is painted walls and curtains. There is a dresser in there and a crib. Really no other decorations. Eventually we will decorate it when she is bigger, but I don't enjoy wasting a bunch of money on things that she will outgrow so fast.
Thanks for your help! I do agree they are not necessary I guess because this being my first it just hurt seeing it and looking at this one room we have, I am doing my best to make it work but it can get hard when you have such little room! I know there are those who are worse off for sure, maybe also living with my parents and having my dad take away that room hurt as well. I think you are right decorating a toddlers room sounds more fun when they can appreciate it more!
We have a spare bedroom that we're using for a "nursery" but really, it's just a room with a crib, dresser with changing pad on it, and all the gear. We're not bothering with decorations or anything- baby doesn't care. If I had time and money, I'm sure I'd be more than happy to put together an extravagant room, but it is just for fun. I'm sure you'll have a perfectly happy and warm space (if a little small) for your little girl!
We won't have a nursery this time around either. Baby will be rooming with us for the time being.
Here's the cool thing, something you should remember. You can always make her a super cute room when she's older! She's more than likely not going to remember anything about her nursery. I didn't have a cutesy nursery with my first son either because we were renting, but the house we lived in once he was two we were able to decorate his room. By this time he was sharing with his baby brother, I had an artist friend of mine paint a mural in their room. She painted trees that mimicked the oak trees we had in our back yard, there were ants climbing up the tree and various bugs painted on the wall. The theme was "Don't let the bedbugs bite", they LOVED their room and still talk about it to this day. So, don't beat yourself up about not having a nursery for baby. I understand that is something we look forward to, but it isn't something that will ruin our children for the rest of their lives if they don't have it. What's most important is that they have a happy, loving family.
Neither of my girls have had a nursery. We are in the process of renovating our 2 bedroom house, and one of the bedrooms is the room we are remodeling right now. So everything is crammed into 1 bedroom...me, DH, my two girls, and baby on the way. Once the bedroom we are redoing is done, we will all move into that one and then start on the second one. Even if we had a spare bedroom, we would still all be sleeping in one room...we just like being close.
I'm really looking forward to doing my girls' room. They are 5 and 2.5 right now, and they helped me pick out paint colors (purplish/pink), and they are going to have a say in what kind of bed, wall decals, etc. It's much more fun when they can help out and tell you what they want.
Baby won't care about a pretty room, baby would prefer to be close to you
We also lived with my parents for the first 2.5 years, and sometimes it was hard and sometimes I wanted more space. But at the end of the day I was glad to have my baby in the room with me, and I know she liked it that way too. We don't have a nursery this time either, and even if we had a spare room baby would still be in our room, probably for at least a year.