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I had a boss several years ago that had 3 teenage daughters. All three were elective c-sections - and they were born in the 90's. I knew that elective c-sections were becoming more common, but I had no idea they were doing them back then. She thought it was the greatest thing in the world - you get to schedule the day you want your baby born, and with enough drugs you never felt a thing! She also had no interest in breastfeeding, and pretty much handed her daughters over to a nanny as soon as they were born. Unsurprisingly, she didn't have the greatest relationship with them. She chose c-section and no breastfeeding purely for cosmetic reasons.
I had DD when I was working there, and she was very vocal against my choice to have a home birth. She tried to convince me to go with the elective c-section for months, using every excuse from "Your husband will find you more attractive" to "You get an extra 2 weeks off work". She flat out told me I was being ridiculous and not to expect a medal of honour, just because I felt like I was better than her. She also told me that I'd seriously regret my choice afterward and she'd be waiting to tell me "I told you so".
Frankly she wasn't a very good boss, let alone a good person. Takes all sorts, I guess.
To each their own I guess. I have had 7 vaginal births and recovery was different with each one. I am scared to death of a c-section, which I have to have for the baby. It is major abdominal surgery and the risks with surgery, without a baby being involved, are enough that I know to avoid it if I can. It sounds like a total cosmetic reason, which is dumb. I would think getting your va jay jay fixed would be easier than trying to fix a c-section scar and any scarring.
Anyway... kind of on this subject. I once had a doctor tell me, after having to have an epidural and me wanting a "natural" birth, that it's only unnatural if they pulled the baby out of your nose. I'm just surprised, that a doctor would agree to it, knowing the risks, for non-medical reasons.
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I've never had an OB who would have agreed to it unless the mom had some pretty substantial reasoning that wasn't a medical issue (maybe a severe anxiety disorder or something of the like). Having said that I think it's kind of strange but I could see why it would be appealing, especially if you've never had a previous birth experience. it probably seems much simpler, less complicated and easily planned. Only afterward can she decide whether it was all of those things (although I seriously doubt recovery from major surgery will be a pleasant experience). I would never consider it, and c-sections absolutely TERRIFY me but who am I to judge someone for wanting one, regardless of their reasoning. It might be somewhat shallow but if someone offered me a tummy tuck and breast augment after this baby i'd jump at the opportunity so I really can't say there isn't a part of me that IS somewhat shallow.
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I have heard of people scheduling elective c-sections just so their babies would have a certain birthday. That takes the cake for me. And am amazingly blown away that a certain birthday is a reason a dr would schedule a c/s.
My first c-section almost killed me (literally). It took me 6+ years to even entertain the idea of having more kids because my experience was so bad. I'd much rather that I had to worry about the cosmetic condition of my vagina after that birth that deal with the things that I went through during and after that birth. Granted, I've had a reasonably decent c-section since then (failed VBAC) and I'm scheduled to have one for this baby, too. But I'd give anything to be able to birth naturally so it makes me sad that other moms don't see that ability as a gift. Frankly it sucks to have to sign up for major abdominal surgery every freakin' time I want to have another kid .
But I'd give anything to be able to birth naturally so it makes me sad that other moms don't see that ability as a gift. Frankly it sucks to have to sign up for major abdominal surgery every freakin' time I want to have another kid .
Agreed! My first c/s was very traumatic (I didn't almost die though- that must have been so scary, I'm sorry ). It took me about 3 yrs to even want another kid bc of it as well. I went on to have two failed VBACs and the c/s's weren't too bad but I have serious envy issues over vaginal birthers (though I'm very happy for them). I've finally 'Given up' on a vag-birth but I really appreciate those who don't take it for granted that their bodies cooperate with them at such a magical time. I will always urge ladies to let their bodies take the wheel first and then tweak things as needed if there are bumps in that rd. I understand there are extenuating circumstances at times like what Karenna was speaking about and to me that's a different thing altogether than caring about the hoohah and what it looks like. News flash- all genitals are nasty looking and they all sag and such the older you get.
I've been wondering if this woman who cares so much about her chacha is planning to go into the porn industry with her golden lady bits. (I know, bad-me for saying this)