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May 3rd, 2013, 01:23 AM
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I think you all knew that I didn't tell my kids for some time yet. I think Im the only one here left that did not tell their kids. It is quite obvious BUT they kept their mouths shut. Anyways, this past Thursday and Friday(week now) I told boys #2, #3, #4 of baby, all ecstatic. Well I kept the oldest one separate cus I felt he deserved to be told alone and have more of a grown up *talk* anyways, we tell him, this is his reply "so, I was already told over a month ago!" I was like WHO TOLD YOU??!!! Oh ********** told me. I was like OH DID SHE?? This *friend* I had advised to NOT tell around the time she had told according to my son. We have been texting maybe once every couple weeks since, since our older kids are BFF together. She would ask me so hows the baby, have you told the kids? I would reply no not yet we are waiting for the right time with eveyrhting that's going on. She replies, I respect that and I will keep it quiet. UMMM YOU TOLD HIM already Im thinking in my head AFTER I read her last texts. I text her right away when my son told me he was told by so and so. I said "so could you explain to me why you told my son of the baby AFTER we have been talking about not telling and that you haven't told him. Have you told him when you took him up north to ****?" She replies no I told him a couple months ago, I felt it was ok cus you should of told them by then. I was so mad. I started to shake and go numb. Then I bursted into tears. That's how I deal with things, break down if I don't want to get stressed out. I so badly wanted to go rip her head off. I was so mad. I am still mad. I text her saying she knew there were issues and that the kids were to not know. I got a delayed reply on that I guess she was thinking. Im upset that she didn't say she told him and Im mad that my son never even confronted me over it. Double betrayal and we are close him and I and stuff. Ugh. I don't know. this is all too much for me. She felt it was ok? really? she isn't a friend friend, more of a person I chit chat with as our kids are friends, but my god why lie? I just don't get it. SHe kept saying sorry and I ignored her texts cus I wanted to flip. I do know she is the type NOW to go and gossip and be the cool mom and the one all the kids go to . UGH .
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May 3rd, 2013, 12:50 PM
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I'd be upset too. I'm not sure that there's anything left to say, personally - you asked her to keep something quiet and she blabbed it. You called her on it and she made up excuses and then apologized. It's very high school to promise to say nothing, then open her mouth and then try to tell you what you "should" have done when confronted about it to deflect blame. I think I would just keep my distance from her in the future (and definitely not share anything with her that you would like to be kept quiet).
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May 3rd, 2013, 01:36 PM
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She was completely out of line, but unfortunately there is not much you can do now except dperhaps iscuss with your son why you didn't tell him? At least you know you can't trust her!
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May 3rd, 2013, 03:51 PM
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Wow, it was not her place to tell him, REGARDLESS!! Really either way she should have kept her mouth shut. Don't blame you one bit for being mad, I sure would be. I wouldn't trust her from here on out!!
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May 3rd, 2013, 06:21 PM
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thank you ladies. I have dropped it for the most part, but I just cant believe it.
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4 babies 94,95,99, 08~TL April 2003 & Sept 2013 TR May 2008

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