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So at my 6 week check-up on Wednesday, I had to fill out a questionnaire while in the waiting room about my mental state. They were asking questions like "How often do you cry?" And "Do you feel overwhelmed?" And "Do you ever feel like you want to hurt yourself or your baby?" So I answered all the questions truthfully- yes, I cry sometimes- yes, I feel overwhelmed- no, I don't want to hurt anyone- ect... There was about 15 to 20 questions. So after I turned it in and was called back to see the doctor, the doctor says "So it looks like you are suffering from PP depression, and I'm going to have to refer you to the mental health department. You will be assigned to a therapist, and a psychologist, and we will notify social services and they will follow up with you."
WHAT. THE. ***. ?!?!?
I answered NONE of those questions in the extreme and they were freakin going to contact SOCIAL SERVICES?? All my answers fell in the middle to lower end of the scale. I'm a first time mother with a newborn!! Of course I'm stressed and overwhelmed! My kid doesn't sleep- so I'm exhausted. He has bad acid reflux, so i'm worried. My hormones are readjusting, so of course I'm emotional!
I looked at her and said " Why don't you hand that paper back to me then and I will change my answers and LIE because I'm not going through that. I have the 'baby blues' - not depression. I've been depressed before and that's not how I feel. I just need some freakin Xanax and a full night's sleep."
I just can't believe she was slapping me with the depression label based off a freakin questionnaire and not actually TALKING to me. And then you want to call social services on me- like the are gonna take my baby ( I know they wouldn't have actually taken the baby) but HELLLLLLL NO!!!!!
So I got the paper back, and changed my answers. The doctor was too shocked that I was protesting to argue with me, lol.
So am I wrong here? There IS a difference between PP Depression and Baby Blues, right?
So annoyed- it's been 2 days and still bugging me!
Wow. That's just insane. I'm sure every woman who has ever cared for a newborn has cried at least once. They're exhausting. It's part of being a mom. To diagnose like that without even talking to you is crazy. I would have done the same thing. I'm so sorry you had to go through that.
Good for you!!!! I think she was being ridiculous and good for you for standing up for yourself!! I always lie on those questionnaires. Really, if I need help, I will ask for it. I don't trust the medical system to know that for me.
Mom to 4 boys and 1 girl
WTH!!!! That is crazy! Calling Social Services?? I guess I know to lie if I have to fill out a questioneer like that at my 6 week. I suppose I had the baby blues. I cried out of happiness and because I was super emotional and worried about the baby and if I was doing things right. Stressed...who the heck isnt stressed with a new baby and lack of sleep?! I could see if you filled "yes" for the question about hurting yourself or the baby. IDK.....I would have done the same thing if I were you. It makes you not want to ask for help if you really need it if they go to that extreme.
I cried every time I was left alone with all 3 kids for like, 3 weeks LOL! it happens! you're recovering from childbirth, adjusting to a newborn, barely sleeping, it's to be expected that it isn't all sunshine and rainbows.
__________________ Lori mom to
Rebecca (11/22/07) Nathan (7/31/10) & Thomas (5/3/13)
I had to fill one out the first full day I was in the hospital. I thought it was crazy to do it so early. And yet, not nearly as crazy as referring you a psychologist and social services without even the courtesy of a conversation.
I treat my PPD with Zoloft and did with DD too for about a year. It made all the difference in the world for me.
That's friggin' crazy, Kurly. And from some of the stories I've heard about social services, I think being worried they'd take away your baby isn't too far-fetched. How completely ridiculous--my guess is your doctor has never had a baby! Ugh! And especially if you've had depression before, you would know the difference between that and just the emotional, stressed, exhausted state of a newborn's mother.
I've dealt with depression too---and I have a 3 year old already---and no one EVER mentioned social services to me. I would have been pretty shocked too. What would have been much better would have been your doctor sitting down and having a discussion with you based on your answers, not unilaterally deciding what your treatment was going to be based on some paper. I've filled that thing out before too, many times, when I was seeing my doc for depression specifically, she would have me fill it out every appointment. But never after having a baby. Weird!!!