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July 15th, 2013, 05:01 PM
eshute's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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Let me start off by saying that I have no room to complain. Anna is a great baby and I know that some of you have higher needs babies. Honestly, I'm seriously considering making sure we don't have more babies because I feel like my good luck would certainly run out on future babies. Anyway, on to my question...

Why can my SO put her down for a nap or to bed and she stays asleep and I can't?! This is so mind boggling and frustrating to me. We do the same things in the same order, but when he puts her in her bassinet, she stays asleep 99% of the time and for a fairly long time. When I put her down for a nap or down to bed, she wakes up. Either immediately or with 15-20 minutes. What is going on here? It's very irritating and upsetting for me because I can't get her to sleep for me very good during the day unless he's home from work. I also made the decision that he is going to be putting her to bed every night because she just wakes up otherwise. He's completely fine with this, but I'm sure there are going to be nights that I'd like to do it or he'd like a break. Any ideas as to why this is happening?

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July 15th, 2013, 05:19 PM
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I have no advice, but I have the same problem, except Aidan won't stay asleep for either of us. I can put him down for 1 nap during the day and 2 times at night. Otherwise he's wide awake within 15-20 minutes.

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July 15th, 2013, 06:12 PM
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I wish I had an answer for you as well. I am suffering from the same thing but neither my DH or I can really get her to stay down. It's hard to get her to sleep anywhere for a long period of time other than my chest or on the couch with him.
I hope some other moms on here have some good advice for us.
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July 15th, 2013, 08:11 PM
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It was my theory that Alex could smell my milk and immediately note its absence. When DH put him down it made no difference to him, he couldn't tell that a change had been made.
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July 15th, 2013, 08:45 PM
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It could be the smell of your milk, or maybe your DH is putting her down when she is more soundly asleep? (If they pass the limp arm test, you know they are fully conked out...)

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July 16th, 2013, 05:29 AM
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we are softer and smell like milk and way more comfy than any cradle or DH

I had this problem too, now I put her down when she is almost asleep (doing the weird eye rolling back and long blink thing) and just sit beside the cradle and rub her hair gently until she falls asleep.
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July 16th, 2013, 06:45 AM
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limp arm test is good
i also run into the issue with her arms getting all squirrely
so i put her down than rest my hand on her for a bit and that usually works

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July 16th, 2013, 09:44 AM
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I haven't breastfed in a few weeks, so I don't know if the milk theory could be it or not. Also, I've tried all of the above. Putting her down when she's fully conked out (the limp arm test), I've tried setting her down when her eyes are just fluttering and sitting with my hand on her til she falls asleep. I even put my hand on her cheek with gentle pressure so it still feel like she's laying against me. She stays asleep for 10 minutes at the MOST. I just now tried to put her down for her nap and she was fully conked out. Limp arms and everything...10 seconds after being put down..eyes WIDE open. I tried a hand on her chest, the cheek thing, gently patting her...nothing. So I decided to just let her rest in there and I sat on my bed (a whole 3 feet from the bassinet). She was good for 5 minutes. Then started screaming. As soon as I picked her up she went back to sleep and is now sleeping on my leg while I type this. All I wanted was 10 minutes to take my poor dog out. I don't get it.

Thankfully my SO is home from work in 15 minutes. Guess who is going on baby duty?


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July 16th, 2013, 09:50 AM
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I have the same problem. DD tends to fall asleep with her arms over her head, so I have the added issue of trying to keep her arms steady or else she'll shake awake all surprised like she's falling.

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July 16th, 2013, 10:52 AM
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Someone mentioned they got themselves a swaddling blanket that had beans sewn into it so it felt a little heavier and tricked the baby into thinking she was being held

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