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I can't decide if I should talk to the pedi about this or not.
Lilah still won't eat food. She has 4 bites and starts to cry. It's to the point now that I can't feed her in her highchair because as soon as I put her in there, she starts crying.....and she has never had a bad experience in it....so I don't get it.
She doesn't like purees I guess, since she won't eat anything besides yogurt. I've tried small pieces of table food and let her do it herself, but she gags REALLY badly on everything....no matter how small. She gags over and over again, it's really scary. I can't even give her mum mum cookies - I was breaking off small pieces for her, and after a couple she starts coughing and gagging.
She has upped her breast milk consumption now - drinking 5oz per sitting instead of 4-4.5. She could probably even drink more than 5oz. She is up twice a night for bottles as well which is just exhausting after 9 months....but there is not much I can do about it since she flat out refuses to eat.
Yeah, I would talk to the pedi for peace of mind. I often have to mix yogurt in to what I feed Lexi too. If I start with yogurt, I can usually switch to a new purée for a couple of bites before she rejects. Then I go back to yogurt. She does the gagging/coughing thing too, but not as bad as Lilah I think. I haven't done much as far as table food. Still bananas, Puffs, and Mum Mums.
I also wanted to add that coughing is ok - babies cough a lot in the beginning as part of their learning to chew and swallow. Coughing means their airway is open. I keep my eye on Lexi when she starts to cough and I try to stay calm bc I know she's not choking at that point. it usually passes quickly and then I follow it with a couple bites of smooth puree. It's if they get silent you start to worry. Now as far as gagging, how bad is it? Is she actually regurgitating or spitting food out?
She gags a few times in a row, and I always think she's going to puke....but she hasn't. At that point, I get so freaked out, that I take the food away and we're done. It scares me because she isn't breathing when she's gagging, and I'm always afraid that when she does go to take a breath, she's going to inhale whatever she was gagging on.
I looked back to what my middle daughter was eating at 9 months, and she was having toast with butter, pieces of waffle with jam, graham crackers, all sorts of table food fruits and veggies and chicken. I know Lilah is bad with the gagging etc, and it's not just me being paranoid, because both my other daughters were on table food by this age.
Then I would definitely talk to your pedi about it. It sounds like this isn't normal. My son was not on table food until at least one. But he never gagged. It was just a combo of him having low tone and having a texture issue and me being paranoid.
I also wanted to add that all kids are different. Maybe Lilah isn't ready for table food until age 1. There's nothing wrong with that. But it sounds like the gagging thing is the main issue and worrisome, so I would bring that up to the pedi.
Kody is like this as well. He's currently refusing solids. I can force a few bites into him, and then he starts crying. I wish he would eat, he nurses all the time! It's annoying, and I wish he would eat.
As far as the high chair thing, it sounds like she's developing an aversion to solids. I read about that when I was reading a book about reflux babies (called "Colic Solved"). It said they can get an aversion to solids to the point where they cry just looking at the high chair. Kody actually does that sometimes, he will fuss when I stick him in the high chair. I kind of just gave up trying solids and just put him in it for play time now. I did get him to drink some really soupy oatmeal cereal today, I put some maple syrup in it to sweeten it up a bit.
He acts interested in whatever I'm eating, but will only take a lick or two at the spoon when I offer it. He gags a lot with those little star puff cereal things, and other things like graham crackers (which he gums and slobbers till they're gooey), etc etc. I feel like at this age, I was grinding up our dinner for Ethan to eat. I know Ethan did solids from 4 1/2 months on, so by Kody's age he was an old pro at it.
I would talk to your pedi, maybe even look into some feeding therapy? I don't know. I'm not going to be going the route of the regular doc, I'm taking Kody to a naturopath. I have an appointment Monday. Only reason I waited until now is that we didn't have the money (it's $200 for the first visit).
My dad pointed out that a good thing about things like cheerios and puffs is that there's a hole in them so even if they get stuck in their throat, their airway can't be clogged. That experience sounds incredibly frustrating, and, if I were you, I would probably bring it up at my next appointment. But I think making an extra appointment to talk about it is a good idea, too, especially if it would help put you at ease. Misha hates a lot of food, but there are things he loves, and we can usually trick him into eating small amounts of other things. Good luck getting some answers! I know this is hard, but she's still pretty young-- a couple of my friends recently reassured me that their children would hardly eat anything other than breast milk until around 13 months. So, to answer your question about being worried, I think definitely NO, but getting some reassurance won't hurt anything