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It's been 5 wks since I had my baby and I've been spotting a very small amt. for the past week and a half. I start out every day dry all day and then have the small spotting in the evening. I feel dry all day except when I have the spotting...during that time I feel wet. My instructor said since it's been almost 2 weeks of the same thing that for now it's looking like my BIP so me and hubs could go ahead and have sex on alternating evenings etc. Does that sound right? I thought if there was bleeding and I felt wet I shouldn't...? Is it because it's been the same for a long enough period of time?
Benandali, NO!!! Spotting cannot be included in your BIP! It must be considered potentially fertile now that you are past 56 days post partum. The BIP can include an unchanging discharge pattern only, spotting is not discharge.
Oops, I thought I read 8 weeks. If you're only 5 weeks, then that makes a difference. If you meet the conditions for LAM, then you don't have to start following any rules yet. Spotting prior to 56 days post partum, if you meet the conditions for LAM, is still part of your lochia and not related to fertility. If you do not meet the conditions for LAM, then you need to follow the rules. You would consider spotting potentially fertile as per the third Early Day Rule.
1. Baby gets all nutrition at the breast (no bottles, no pumping)
2. No spotting or bleeding after 56 days post partum
3. Baby is under 6 months of age
As long as you meet these conditions, the chance of pregnancy is only 2%. You can begin charting to establish your BIP, but there is no need to follow the rules while LAM is in effect. Once any of those 3 conditions is no longer met, time to apply the rules.
Yeah....that's kinda what I was thinking. I am pumping so that hubby can feed her once at night....so I don't qualify for LAM. Therefore, until all this spotting stops (which is seeming like NEVER) I need to keep following the rules. Now, if I only pumped w/ my first and still didn't get a period until about 7 months after, is it more likely that it will take just as long w/ this one? She is actually nursing for most feeds. My instructor said I would probably be about the same this time around.
Because of the pumping, you're right - this spotting has to be considered potentially fertile (Early Day Rule #3). It could just be lochia, but it could also be a sign of fluctuating hormones related to the return of fertility already. There's no way to know which it is once you no longer qualify for LAM, so we err on the side of caution and treat it as potentially fertile.
Just like every pregnancy is different, every post partum return to fertility is different. Your fertility might return around the same time as your first, or it could be quite different - make NO assumptions about that. I've had my fertility return as early as 3 months (while BFing) and as late as 9 months (also while BFing). So take each day as it happens. Hopefully that spotting stops soon! It's sure annoying. I always get it for the full 8 weeks after birth, grrrr.
Last edited by ShawnaCAN; July 21st, 2009 at 05:44 PM.