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Well, we probably would have been facing a bigger problem then. I was very sure that I wanted to marry someone who shared my faith. You can agree to disagree with friends about faith, but in a marriage I think it's really important to be on the same page about that. My parents are not and it's always been a very painful issue in their marriage.
I mean, my faith is the most intimate part of who I am. If I couldn't share that with my husband I think I would feel very disconnected from him. So....if my DH didn't want to do NFP it would likely mean he didn't share our faith's beautiful teachings on the sacredness of sexuality (what it means, it's purpose, etc). If we weren't on the same page about what marriage means....honestly, I don't know if I would have married him. I seriously dated another guy before DH and that's the reason we broke it off. He was great, we got along well, but we weren't on the same page regarding some really important things in life, NFP included. This is one of those things I consider very important.
But for the sake of discussion, let's say he completely bailed on his beliefs and suddenly wanted to contracept or get sterilized. I would make sure he knew I was going to continue to chart and abstain on fertile days until menopause. So there really wouldn't any benefit for him to do it, because we'd be having the same amount of sex with or without his choice to contracept. LOL
My mother converted after she married my father, I understand that was very hard on them (they were the same faith before she converted). Nick claims to be Catholic, but when you talk to him, he isn't really It hurts me, but he agrees with enough of the faith, most of the time that we make due and I pray for him. So I know what you mean on it being important.
Nick however respects my decision to do NFP, he doesn't think of it the same as I do, but he's fine with it.
If he hadn't been I'd have a problem because I'm not willing to do anything else. He sometimes talks like he wants a vasectomy, and if that day comes I'll be really disappointed in his decision. I really don't know what I would have done, I would have just kept explainning I wasn't willing to do anything else I suppose.
Kinda what Shawna said. My faith and beliefs were the #1 thing I looked for in a husband. I dated one guy before DH and he and I had were so opposite in our beliefs that it didn't get very far. DH and I are one and the same mind when it comes to all that.