[LJD3Tdance]

Do you have any pet peeves about NFP/FAM/people's beliefs on them? How about any pet peeves, any subject?

[SammyJ]

I mostly just get peeved when I get that initial reaction of disbelief that it works. When I told my SIL about six months ago that I was getting off bcp before ttc and would use the TTA FAM method, she didn't believe me at all. I've gotten that reaction a few times since and I just stopped telling people. They aren't receptive to learning and try and make me feel like I am going to mess up somehow. Well, no 'oops' in our five months of waiting so I am pretty sure it was effective.

[LJD3Tdance]

My pet peeve is how many times I have to re-explain the same thing to people about it...like at least get some new questions, I already answered that one! (I'm not saying that I mind explaining the same thing to DIFFERENT people, I'm saying the same person, same question!)

[ShawnaCAN]

Pet peeve #1: That the term "Natural Family Planning" is automatically assumed to be the Rhythm or Calender method.

Pet peeve #2: When people go around telling everyone how NFP didn't work for them, but then if you dig a little deeper they reveal all the "achieving related behavior" that was going on at the time! NFP actually worked perfectly, for TTC!

"We totally avoided day 14 and still got pregnant, so obviously NFP doesn't work."
"Well I wasn't really charting or anything. Just keeping track in my head."
"We weren't really following all the rules...but that seemed to work fine before."
"I always ovulate on day 16, so when the mucus started earlier than usual I assumed it was infertile."

LOL!

[SammyJ]

I agree, Shawna!! There are just so many misconceptions about how our bodies work and what our fertile signs more. Fertility awareness is truly a beautiful thing simply in how we are able to learn so much more about why we work the way we do, etc. I just wish more people were open to learning for themselves instead of just trusting what they hear from sisters/mothers/friends, etc. I mean, not saying those women don't know anything, but even my own mother (who has four children) knows less about fertility signs, etc. than I do.

I do know that if I ever do have a daughter, I will definitely be teaching her more than I ever learned. lol

[geogeek]

I completely agree with Shawna! Those are my pet peeves for sure. My parents are SO worried that I am going to get pregnant too early after Marsi. They really want me to get "on birth control" and that is after successfully using FAM to TTA for 3 years! Ugh...oh well. I guess I will have to show them that it also works postpartum too! Granted we are not being as careful as we should and I wouldn't be surprised if we got a baby a little sooner than we would like. But, we know that every time we do any achievement related behavior. It is us and not the method that fail if that happens.

[plan4fate]

achievement related behavior.... hmm... I need to convince my dh to do some of that!

I dislike the fact that my family has a bet running on how long it takes for the method to fail and we get pregnant. I'm tired of explaining "the method doesn't fail, we do."

[rlh27]

Aside from what Shawna said, my biggest pet peeve is when people tried to push the pill on me. Friends, relatives, and even one of my OBGYN tried to push the pill. Umm... it's not your decision and it's none of your business.

[LJD3Tdance]

My mother really likes to make it seem like she is all on board (she's Catholic too after all), but then makes comments like "Yeah, but does that REALLY work?"