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June 4th, 2012, 07:21 AM
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Last OB appointment they asked me what seemed to be a million questions. One of them was "What do you plan to use for birth control after the baby is born?" and I totally froze! I know we'll be using LAM and closely monitoring for signs of returning fertility, but yet in the moment I didn't want to deal with those "yeah, good luck with that" looks or a lecture of how I should use something "safer". I ended up just saying condoms, which is partly true since we'll use them when I'm fertile. Anybody else get self-conscious when asked those kinds of questions? Part of it was I wasn't expecting it (kind of like how I wasn't expecting all the STD questions, lol).
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June 4th, 2012, 08:17 AM
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My doc who delivered Megan was very Pro FAM. What is funny is that my midwives before I switched were kinda uneasy when I said that I didn't want any hormonal bc after delivery. I definitely get self conscious when I talk to family or peers because I do get that look of "Oh yeah you use that? Well in a few months when you are pregnant tell me how that worked out for you". And so far I have been able to throw it in their faces because no unplanned pregnancies here.
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June 4th, 2012, 11:07 AM
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I used to be more anxious about that conversation, but not anymore. I saw my first GYN shortly before our wedding. I picked her because I thought I'd feel more comfortable with a woman. When she asked about BC and I told her NFP, she was so incredibly condescending about it. Wrote it off as Rhythm, wouldn't listen when I tried to explain it wasn't Rhythm...just laughed. I never went back to her. I don't expect my doctor to agree with all of our choices, but I do expect them to respect that it's our decision. They can make their recommendations, the final decision is still ours.

The next time it came up again was when I was seeing an OB/GYN. He is our family doctor too. He has always been very respectful of NFP, which I appreciate so much! The first time we talked about it, he said, "I admit, I don't know much about how that all goes - but I've heard it can work very well if you learn it right. Do you have somebody to help you with it?" After I became an instructor myself, I gave him a mini-presentation on how it all works.

My midwife is very supportive of it. But then, she's much more into natural health anyway.
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I'm good talking with the doctor about it because I know she's on board (she actually first suggested it when I told her how much I despised hormones), but this was a new nurse asking all the questions and for some reason I felt skiddish about answering completely honestly. Oh well, do they really need to know that?
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June 4th, 2012, 06:23 PM
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Hmm... I don't know why they'd need to know this early. I know that where I'm from they ask at about 34 weeks so they can make sure that you know what you can take while nursing, or when you can plan to have an IUD inserted.


I'm not looking forward to that question but i do plan on saying "Birth control? I'll have pushed a human out of me and will be acting as a human cow... I won't need birth control, but my husband might need something to drink."
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June 4th, 2012, 07:43 PM
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That is a really odd question to ask at the beginning of your pregnancy though. I can see why they bring it up at your first post partum check, but it really doesn't make any sense at this point in time. You've got 9 months to think about it and make a decision! Weird.
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June 4th, 2012, 11:05 PM
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I get ready to roll my eyes whenever I answer cuz I've had misinformed docs respond. My midwife was like "Cool" this time
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June 5th, 2012, 07:15 AM
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I don't tell people because I started using it recently, and both of my kids were unplanned. I feel like I'm kind of a bad advertisement on something that isn't fully understood or trusted as things are. I don't want to deter someone else from using it.
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June 5th, 2012, 05:23 PM
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Both my GP and OB are quite knowledgeable about NFP. My GP is in an all Catholic practice that doesn't prescribe hormonal contraceptives. I guess I'm lucky that I don't have to deal with medical practitioners who are ignorant about NFP and think that it's all calendar rhythm method. Nine years of using NFP for family planning reasons, I've never had an unplanned pregnancy and there will be 6 1/2 years between my first and second child. If anyone was so ignorant as to put me down for it, I point out the fact that it's been working PERFECTLY for 9 years.
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June 6th, 2012, 06:22 PM
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I honestly always thought those type of questions were rather personal for a provider to ask. Like, they should say something to the effect of, "If you want any info about birth control, I will be happy to discuss" instead of "what are you doing for birth control?". I was offended when pushed about it since my husband and I do not believe in ANY birth control aside from NFP, not even condoms. That's a personal/religious conviction and choice and yet I was made to feel "stupid" - all this less than a month after giving birth! I now have a midwife I see who is very supportive of our choices. I just choose not to see providers anymore who are condescending about it.
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June 6th, 2012, 07:14 PM
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Yeah, I was caught off guard by how personal some of the questions were. I couldn't figure out how having that info would in any way help take care of me or the baby. If I wanted hormones or a devise, I'd ask for one. I'm a grown adult, I can make my own decisions about preventing conception after birth. They also asked lots of STD questions, one of which was "as far as you know, have any of the partners you've had since conception been exposed to an STD?" Uhh... I'm a married woman, how many partners do you think I have?
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