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September 22nd, 2007, 08:11 AM
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Did he learn NFP or FAM with you (in a class, with a teacher, or by reading a book?)

Does he understand what your chart means?

Does he understand the rules for avoiding pregnancy, or does he rely on you to tell him when you're infertile?

Does he participate in charting?



I'll go first! We've learned a few different forms of NFP, DH has been part of the training each time. I used to write down all my observations and tell him when it was ok or not. Our Creighton instructor really emphasized that HE do the charting. So he did. I'd tell him what to write and he'd do it, plus put on the appropriate stamp, and we'd interpret it together. It was AWESOME! Once he started doing the charting, he internalized the rules more and doesn't even have to ask anymore. He looks at the chart and knows exactly where we are. Having him chart is a habit we've continued after switching to Billings and it's something I encourage my clients to do.


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September 22nd, 2007, 09:42 AM
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I plan on getting Jordan involved in this. I'm still reading TCOYF and I told him he should start reading those chapters that deal with the charting so he knows.

I plan on charting on day 1 of my next period.
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September 22nd, 2007, 10:05 AM
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I plan on getting Jordan involved in this. I'm still reading TCOYF and I told him he should start reading those chapters that deal with the charting so he knows.

I plan on charting on day 1 of my next period.[/b]

Oh! You're reading TCOYF! That's called the Fertility Awareness Method. Can I put that with your name on the Roll Call? (To learn more about the differences between methods and how they work, you can read the NFP Method Comparison under the Resources sticky).
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September 22nd, 2007, 12:30 PM
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I learned by reading various books and told Jamie the rules. He totally can read charts and has even looked over my shoulder at other people's charts and said what they meant. He knows when I am fertile and infertile based on my chart. He doesn't do anything with the actual charting because I just enter it on-line or keep it in my head.
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September 23rd, 2007, 10:56 PM
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My dh is fully supportive, but not too much involved...he goes with what I say and do.
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September 27th, 2007, 10:34 AM
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I didn't go to a class. I am learing by book and help. My DH hasn't read the book. He doesn't want to read it, but he does ask lots of questions. I have shown him my charts and optimal charts to see if he can interpret them and he dosn't realy care but undrstands the "rules". He is involoved. He always wakes up before me (at the same time) so when his alarm goes off, the thermometer goes in my mouth then when it beeps he puts the thermometer away and gets up. It gives him the little snooze time that he likes. I replay the last temp when I get up and chart it. He always asks me if I am fertile or not and is very supportive if I am...or not.
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September 27th, 2007, 11:41 AM
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DH is supportive, but has no interest whatsoever in hearing about my mucus! He's never looked at my chart. I kind of wish he would so I didn't have to disappoint him when I have to tell him no. He understands and is happy with NFP still, but I hate having to reject him since he isn't up-to-date on my goings-on.
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September 27th, 2007, 12:12 PM
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I kind of wish he would so I didn't have to disappoint him when I have to tell him no. He understands and is happy with NFP still, but I hate having to reject him since he isn't up-to-date on my goings-on.[/b]
I totally hear that! I did all the charting up until we learned Creighton after our second child. Our Fertility Care Practitioner cracked down hard about husbands doing all the charting, so mine started. I would tell him what my observations were, he wrote it down and picked out the appropriate stamp for the chart. Even though he was supportive and I had explained the rules a gazillion times before, it didn't really click until he was doing the charting. Then there was no more good cop/bad cop - he just always knew what was going on! I didn't think having him chart would have made that big of a difference, but it did. Hopefully some day your DH will come around and want to be more involved.


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October 20th, 2007, 07:32 PM
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LOL my DH would much rather be left in the dark. If I mention anything "female" related he gets all grossed out lol. He's even scared to look at our bathroom calendar, which anymore all I write down is CD 1 the rest of it I can basically map out in my mind... too many years of TTC, it's burnt into my brain anymore!
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