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  #1  
November 20th, 2007, 03:36 AM
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What other protection do you use when you know you are fertile? (ie condoms etc). Or do you just abstain during the period you know you are fertile?
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November 20th, 2007, 07:00 AM
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We mostly abstain, but if we feel like it, we use condoms. We figured out pulling doesn't do the trick.
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November 20th, 2007, 08:49 AM
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We wait. We're very fertile, so when it's necessary to avoid pregnancy there's no way I'd trust a condom (or anything else) during my fertile times.
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November 20th, 2007, 10:38 AM
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We would abstain.
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November 21st, 2007, 09:03 AM
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Hmmm... I think we'll be using condoms when I first go off the BCP in Feb next year just until I get my head around working out when I'm fertile - I'll be too nervous to just trust my cycles and knowing when to abstain!

Poor DBF - no s*x when AF arives, then no s*x when I'm fertile - I don't think he'll be too happy with that!
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November 21st, 2007, 09:19 AM
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Poor DBF - no s*x when AF arives, then no s*x when I'm fertile - I don't think he'll be too happy with that! [/b]
You can make up for that when you are NOT fertile or when AF has gone. Or just pamper your DBF during those times that way, he won't feel frustrated

DH and I abstain or do the p&p during my fertile times and AF. I can't use condoms because whether they are latex or latex free or some other kind of material, it literally makes me raw. the p&p hasn't done us wrong for seven years prior to Caleb, so we're pretty comfortable using that method. We've had a lot of practice with that.
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November 21st, 2007, 09:40 AM
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Hmmm... I think we'll be using condoms when I first go off the BCP in Feb next year just until I get my head around working out when I'm fertile - I'll be too nervous to just trust my cycles and knowing when to abstain![/b]
If you haven't had proper training about when to abstain and how to evaluate your fertility, then I would be nervous too! The pregnancy rate is much higher for couples who try to "wing it" with regards to learning to use charting to avoid pregnancy, but rates are very low for couples who have had sufficient training. It all depends on how serious your need is to avoid pregnancy. If very serious (like women who are taking meds that would harm a fetus, for example) - then using condoms during the fertile time is far more risky than waiting, because condoms have a failure rate...abstinence doesn't. If not so serious, then you can afford to just see how it goes and take what happens.

Kind of like comparing the need to avoid pregnancy to other health matters. If someone has a heart problem (serious need), then it's necessary to make diet, exercise, proper medication a priority...you can't really afford to just wing it with regards to nutrition etc. Someone without any health concerns (not a serious need), can just try to eat well and not really pay much attention to it.
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Abstaining...that's the only method of bc I've ever used, no condoms, no pills, etc.
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November 27th, 2007, 01:02 PM
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well since dh "doesnt trust it" (referring to FAM grrrrrrrrr) we use condoms and sponge. the sponge was a bit wierd at first but i don't mind it now.....
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I will be the one that everyone will say... ohhhh that's not good. Before we were TTC we used the pull-out method. Now let me explain how it works, b/c it has worked for this DH and my exDH. I got pg with DD the 2nd cycle of not trying/not avoiding, with DD we were actively TTC and charting and by the end of the 1st cycle, I was pg.
Having said that..... I have a certain way that it's done so there isn't much of a chance. If there's plenty of foreplay, the pre-ejac will appear during that. We wipe that away or whatever and during BD, right before he ejacs, he pulls out and finishes on my stomach. This obvioualy has worked for both DHs b/c I have no surprise children. I have 2.5yrs between my 2 kids and we didn't avoid during my fertile times. Now granted, everyone is different so someone else may not have the technique mastered and may get an OOPS baby. The key is your DH knowing his body well enough to pull out in time. I think this is where the problem generally begins.

Anyway..... that's just what we've used.
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November 30th, 2007, 07:09 AM
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We abstained during times where I knew I was fertile. Early on, when I wasn't quite sure if I was doing things right, we would pullout on "fringe days," but after a few cycles, I got to know things pretty well and it was clear what was a safe day and what wasn't.
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December 1st, 2007, 08:53 PM
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When I am fertile we use condoms..... however we had a bit of a slip up (ie we got slack) recently, which resulted in an ectopic pregnancy - so we are now talking about what method of BC to use, I think we've agreed on going back to FAM, but are either going to use a 2nd barrier method, or just abstain during my fertile time
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December 4th, 2007, 09:38 AM
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If you haven't had proper training about when to abstain and how to evaluate your fertility, then I would be nervous too! The pregnancy rate is much higher for couples who try to "wing it" with regards to learning to use charting to avoid pregnancy, but rates are very low for couples who have had sufficient training. It all depends on how serious your need is to avoid pregnancy. If very serious (like women who are taking meds that would harm a fetus, for example) - then using condoms during the fertile time is far more risky than waiting, because condoms have a failure rate...abstinence doesn't. If not so serious, then you can afford to just see how it goes and take what happens.

Kind of like comparing the need to avoid pregnancy to other health matters. If someone has a heart problem (serious need), then it's necessary to make diet, exercise, proper medication a priority...you can't really afford to just wing it with regards to nutrition etc. Someone without any health concerns (not a serious need), can just try to eat well and not really pay much attention to it.[/b]
Well, my reason for avoiding a pregnancy would be because we are not ready to have a baby yet!

What do you you mean by 'sufficient training' - do you mean take a class? If so, how would I find one (keeping in mind I'll be doing it in New Zealand)? For a start, I'm planning on buying the TCOYF book and reading that before I go off the pill...
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If you haven't had proper training about when to abstain and how to evaluate your fertility, then I would be nervous too! The pregnancy rate is much higher for couples who try to "wing it" with regards to learning to use charting to avoid pregnancy, but rates are very low for couples who have had sufficient training. It all depends on how serious your need is to avoid pregnancy. If very serious (like women who are taking meds that would harm a fetus, for example) - then using condoms during the fertile time is far more risky than waiting, because condoms have a failure rate...abstinence doesn't. If not so serious, then you can afford to just see how it goes and take what happens.

Kind of like comparing the need to avoid pregnancy to other health matters. If someone has a heart problem (serious need), then it's necessary to make diet, exercise, proper medication a priority...you can't really afford to just wing it with regards to nutrition etc. Someone without any health concerns (not a serious need), can just try to eat well and not really pay much attention to it.[/b]
Well, my reason for avoiding a pregnancy would be because we are not ready to have a baby yet!

What do you you mean by 'sufficient training' - do you mean take a class? If so, how would I find one (keeping in mind I'll be doing it in New Zealand)? For a start, I'm planning on buying the TCOYF book and reading that before I go off the pill...
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Sufficient training means taking a class or an online or correspondence course where you work with a teacher long distance, or working privately with an instructor, etc. Taking Charge of Your Fertility is a good jumping off point, but even the author encourages actual training from a certified instructor to really learn NFP inside and out. In New Zealand, your instruction options are:

Natural Fertility NZ - http://www.naturalfertility.co.nz/lrn_consult.htm
The Billings Ovulation Method online course (a teacher is assigned to you via email) - http://www.woomb.org/bom/teaching/learningBOM.html
The Couple to Couple League Correspondence course (see the bottom book, available January 2008) - http://ccli.org/store/onlineshopping.php?c...order_by=name#C
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