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May 19th, 2010, 10:23 AM
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If you could go back to before your parent died and do something differently what would it be? (other than keeping your parent alive, which I am sure we all wish we could do)

For me, I would have to say I would have made more videos. I really wish I had more photos and especially videos of Dad. The one very short moment that I have him on a video is so precious to me. I have watched it over and over again. I just wish I had more of him. Usually he was the one behind the camera so there aren't too many.
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May 25th, 2010, 07:11 AM
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I think i could second that but like me my mom HATED getting her pic took... so for me to have got a video was probly inpossible LOL...

I think i did my best & couldn't have did anything different ,,, HUGS girl
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May 29th, 2010, 09:00 PM
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More videos and pics, and more holidays, and asking her more questions on how to be a good mom
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May 30th, 2010, 07:22 PM
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Help her depression. I would want her to start antidepressants so that I could get to know her the way she was on zoloft before she died. Pics and videos are still so very hard to watch...
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June 8th, 2010, 06:46 AM
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I would have not been so stubborn and let him bring his young girlfriend when he had the oppurtunity to meet his grandson for the first time.
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June 11th, 2010, 04:27 PM
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Thing that always sticks out...I wouldn't have gotten so upset the morning I dropped him off at the VA. I was so angry, it was like the 2nd day of school and I was going to be late. I just...stormed off.
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June 15th, 2010, 08:57 AM
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I'd have gone home a lil more. I live an hour from my folks, and only get home a few times a year because I dont own a car. But in the last few years those visits were less and less because the dementia was just too hard for me to handle. I wanted my memories to be of dad, not the shell of a being he was becoming. But now I wish I'd have gone home a few times.

I'm lucky tho. The last time I saw him he said something to me. I stuck my tongue out and said "shut up dad". he said "no." I said "yes. he said "no" I said "shut up dad." he said "ok. Love you." to some that would sound like a bad exchange, but my father was a joker, and a royal pain in the keister.. it was totally right up his alley.
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June 15th, 2010, 09:26 AM
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Gone to the hospital more. He wasn't even home for Angelica's first Christmas...adn while we all went to see him there I wish we would have taken the gifts and opened them with him that day so he could see it. And with My grandma...I wish I would have went to see her more. The month that she was in the nursing home was so hectic for me that I didn't get a chance to go see her.
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November 4th, 2010, 11:05 PM
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I would have called and talked to him and taken my son to meet him instead of waiting on him to do it.
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November 5th, 2010, 03:43 PM
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def more videos too - i really miss her voice
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