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April 12th, 2011, 06:21 AM
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So I have been holding a very lot in... 4 weeks ago my mother passed away after a 12 year battle with Ovarian Cancer. I was at her side when she took her final breath which was the hardest thing I have ever had to do. I have missed her so much but for some reason I have felt numb and haven't felt the grief until this past week. I had a miscarriage on April 3, I was 11 weeks along. I think it all hit me shortly after and I have been a walking disaster. I don't have my mom to comfort me during this difficult time, she would have been the first person I called, and now my baby is gone. I am blessed in many ways but all I can feel is emptiness. I am hurting a lot and for some reason I feel distant towards my husband? He simply irritates me, why? I don't know!

Anyone with advice? I just needed to get this off my chest. I have felt cheated losing my mom and my baby within 3 weeks of each other. Life can be so cruel
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April 13th, 2011, 07:16 PM
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*hugs* I'm sorry that you're going through both of these at the same time.
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April 16th, 2011, 02:52 PM
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I am so sorry, these are two big losses in a short period of time, counselling or journalling might be helpful to start getting those feelings out. Sometimes its easier to find dh annoying than to poke at the pain, 'cause it'll hurt. But it won't destroy you. It hurts right now, and its going to hurt for awhile, parents are very hard to lose. Eventually its going to start hurting less each day as you process it ((hugs)) and love to you
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May 2nd, 2011, 03:48 PM
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i was there. Saw mom's last breath almost 3 yrs later i still picture that day ... my storey is in the whatever it is one top ( lol sorry ) being distracted , i didn't loose my child tho almostdid, but had wonderful dr's ..

it hurts everyday & i think mariej say is awsome , even like ( AM I WRONG BEEN A LONG NIGHT ) in another post start celebrating it by doing a balloon ritual or sometime....

it does get better,,,, but it gets harder at times to , expecally with the baby , when we go to the grave site she smiles, or does something mom did but i didn't ..she has so much of her in her that it hurts.

my husband don't know what to do or how to think, i resented my husband at first because when we started talking about a house, mom was here we lived in a 3 family house & she had bone & liver cancer so he wanted me away from her , b/c i spent all my free time there.

he didn't like it

i still hate him to this day, but things happened

big hugs we are here for you
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May 19th, 2011, 02:11 PM
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I am so sorry for your losses, they are both so hard to go through my baby was born on April 3rd, and my mom passed away on the baby's due date- April 12th. She was in cardiovascular ICU for 3 months and I know she was only holding on to meet her new grandbaby. I know how hard it is to lose your mom and want to call her and be comforted, but she isn't there and it just adds to your grief. Even though we had 3 months to process the idea of losing her, it still hurts so much and I feel a huge void in my life. I can't imagine going through a miscarriage also. I'm so sorry... I'll keep you in my thoughts and prayers <3
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June 5th, 2011, 06:02 PM
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I'm so sorry for your two losses one of your mom and the loss of your baby
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