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September 3rd, 2011, 10:37 AM
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Does your parent have a headstone, a plaque, an urn, or some other item of remembrance you can visit or keep?

Where is it kept? What do you like about your place of remembrance?
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September 3rd, 2011, 06:13 PM
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I have dad's ashes in a necklace. If I can't get home to the cemetary (I've only been a handful of times since I don't live close) then I just hold the necklace close to me (not wear it, but in my hands).

This is my necklace on my aunt's newborn baby in 2010. She's named after my dad, dad was Kenneth and she's Kenna. I'll be using that too if we have a girl.

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September 4th, 2011, 01:11 PM
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September 5th, 2011, 12:33 AM
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My mom is buried about 3 hours away from me, so I don't get there all that often.

I don't have a place or anything, but I also have a necklace that means the absolute world to me. When my grandma died, her engagement ring was passed down to my mom, who had the diamond reset to a pendant. It was the only piece of jewelry (other than my mom's wedding rings) that she wore, and she wore that necklace every day because it meant so much to her. So when my mom died, the necklace was passed down to me. It is hands down, my most treasured possession. I wear it just about every day, just like my mom did and I always feel like both she and my grandma are with me when I wear it.

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I have dad's ashes in a necklace. If I can't get home to the cemetary (I've only been a handful of times since I don't live close) then I just hold the necklace close to me (not wear it, but in my hands).

This is my necklace on my aunt's newborn baby in 2010. She's named after my dad, dad was Kenneth and she's Kenna. I'll be using that too if we have a girl.

That necklace is beautiful. How nice that you can literally have your dad so close to you, even if he's gone. Very cool.
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September 5th, 2011, 08:28 AM
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I love that necklace, and the idea of having your dad next to your heart. I wish I'd done that with some of my dad's ashes.
They are however scattered half in our garden and half in my aunt's garden, just as my uncle's (his brother and best friend and my late godfather) are. Both my mum and I, and my aunt, have a rose bush to commemorate each of them. They are the memorial rose bushes with the names about memories and remembrance, though I can't remember all 4 individual names now! We've all three of us been guilty of standing in the gardens and talking to my dad and uncle.

My dad also has a cabinet devoted to him: wedding pictures, anniversary pictures, pictures with Daniel, the book of Grandad photos I had made for Daniel, anniversary presents, and the remembrance card with a verse we were given by the funeral director. We light it up at night.

However I don't really need a place: I talk to them anyways. I know when my dad is with me because he appears in my dreams and I know when my uncle and godfather is with me because he sits on the edge of my bed sometimes - I know it's him as the first time it happened was the night after he passed and I had asked him for a sign that he was at peace.
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