[meant2bemommie]

I was going to plan Carissa's birthday with moms help. She always knew everything I needed to do.. How do I plan w/o her? I was just going to cancel it but everyone one said mom wouldn't want me to do that. Carissa's birthday is exactly 1 week after moms. Mom is 04/20. A part of me still wants to cancel it...

[heathernoel]

That's Mom and Dad's wedding anniversary!!!! OMG!

I know it really sucks, but this made me smile! Now, you really have to have it! Plan it with her in mind...she'd have loved to been there...have her picture up...have a memorial for her...a celebration of her life as a Grandmother!!

Wow-you 2 have way too much in common!! LOL

I agree-don't cancel the party. It would be too hard on your daughter, even though she is only going to be 2 (right?). Get a friend or an aunt or someone else to help you plan it. Your mom will *be there* to help you celebrate. Kids don't understand the whole reason why *their* plans have to change because of things in *our* lives (I get this a lot because of my Lupus).

I don't think your mom would have wanted you to cancel it, either.

[meant2bemommie]

I think that is a great idea. I will have to look for as many pictures I can of her and Carissa and make them 8x10s and put them everywhere. I have many people offering to help me and I know I should take them up on it but it is so hard because the only one I want is her

[heathernoel]

take them up on it, Nicki. You really need to make it a day about your Mom and Carissa. It will really help you...I promise.

[meant2bemommie]

I don't know what they even could help me do. I guess set up. But man... I just wanted to have fun with Mom setting everything up.