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January 6th, 2010, 06:29 AM
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My 9 year old was diagnosed with ADHD when he was 6. We started out with a child psychologist and my son's pedi. It turns out the child psych has ADHD also and couldn't stay on topic so we quit going there b/c I wasn't getting any help out of the sessions.

Here's the deal. Our morning routine every morning is driving me completely NUTS! And we're about to add another baby to the mix so I need to get a handle on it.

DS wakes up most mornings whining and complaining b/c he has to get up early, I have to tell him at least 10 times to eat his breakfast, 10 more times to get him dressed, then I have to nag at him to brush his teeth. I normally have to send him back to the bathroom at least twice to rebrush b/c they aren't clean. He has a thousand excuses why he can't get dressed, or eat or brush his teeth.

During this whole time he's dancing and jumping around the house singing and when he talks he's not screaming but he's not using an inside voice either. He acts extremely goofy and is very noisy which is a problem b/c he always manages to wake my 3 year old up and then she gets up cranky and crying b/c she's tired so then I have to deal with a cranky crying toddler and my noisy hyper 9 year old. I finally breathe a sigh of relief when he leaves for school but my gosh is this normal?

He acts like this everyday even on the weekends. My 3 year old has also started acting like this and I think she's doing it b/c she sees him doing it.

He's fine once his meds kick in, He's on Concerta 54 mg, but it's crazy around here until they kick in.

How much of this is related to the ADHD and how much is related to him just not behaving? What can I do to stop this and get a handle on it?
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January 6th, 2010, 07:30 PM
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oh boy, does that ever sound like my house!! Mornings are the WORST!! I always said I wish there was a way you could inject the meds into them an hour before they wake up, so when they wake up the meds are already kicked in!! lol
But seriously, my ADHD kids are the same, especially Austin. He complains and kicks and screams that he has to get up, I have to tell him a zillion times to get dressed and even then it takes him 20min to get dressed. 30 min to eat, DH takes them to school as I am alrady gone for work, he says they are late for school almost everyday! Mornings are so rough in our house, it's not until the meds kick in do they act "normal."
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January 8th, 2010, 09:42 AM
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Well that makes me feel a little better. At least I know it's normal even if it does drive me batty.

Thanks!
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January 8th, 2010, 09:44 AM
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no prob!! Mornings are the worst for us, it's a very stressful time of day! lol
sure makes me glad I get to leave and go to work!! lol
Hang in there!
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January 22nd, 2010, 03:02 PM
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I don't normally post here, but was looking for some other information and ran across your post. My son has AD/HD, and the only solution I have found in our house that works for mornings is to wake up before him, and take his meds into him with a glass of water while he is still asleep. I can generally manage to get him to take his meds and he will go back to sleep for about another 30-45 minutes. At which point, I can wake him up, his meds are in his system, and mornings are much better. On days when he doesn't fall back to sleep, it's a little more hectic, but at least we are all up earlier and have more time to get into the groove of things.
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January 25th, 2010, 05:17 PM
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wow, that is a GREAT idea!! I hate mornings as it takes forever for the pills to kick in.
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January 30th, 2010, 02:44 PM
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Oh that sounds like how my mornings used to be!!! I wish I had thought of giving them their meds while they were sleeping.

What I did when they were little was a little behaviour modification. In the mornings Kyle knew what he had to do... Get dressed, eat breakfast, brush teeth, make his bed. If he did all of those things he got a star. If he didn't then he got a frown smile on his chart and had to sit on the couch all quiet for an hour when we got home. And he always wanted stars not frown faces because they met presents at the end of the week! We did this with his homework/schoolwork as well.

It took about a week of really hard work to make the mornings a routein that he knew he had to follow. The hardest thing was making him sit on the couch for a whole hour, as you know ADHD kids don't like to sit
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February 10th, 2010, 05:07 AM
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Thanks for the replies ladies! Shortly after posting this ds got very sick. First he had Type A/H1N1 flu, then a stomach virus and then a sinus infection. I thought things would never get back to normal around here.

I had a long talk with him and so far our mornings are going much, much better! He understands what he has to do and he gets it done without me nagging. Now we just need to work on our night time routine.
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February 10th, 2010, 08:58 AM
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I am so sorry he was sick, sounds like you were struggling. Living with adhd children can be so taxing on our patience, but the benefits are so awesome as well. For example, they are so intelligent and creative and can be so fun to be with... never a dull moment Sounds like the start to your day is getting easier, has he been able to stick to his am schedule for you?
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February 23rd, 2010, 10:29 PM
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We usually wake Phillip up while he is sleeping so he can have the meds in his system before he gets up completely for the day. He has issues with wetting his bed so he still takes a shower in the morning before school. What we finally had to do is make a chart and laminate it. It tells him what he has to do in the bathroom and it is on his wall. Since we did that he gets everything done in the bathroom he needs to before he comes out.

When he doesn't get the meds in his system before he gets up... well those are the days I just want to quit.
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March 17th, 2010, 10:59 AM
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Yes, this is a daily challenge for us too. I love these ideas and will have to start implementing them! They sound awesome!
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April 7th, 2010, 12:36 PM
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wow I just posted something identical to this! LOL I should have read this first. My son is also 9 and is also struggling with this. I think I might start trying to give him his pill when I leave that way by the time DH gets him up its in his system and life will be easier for him!
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