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is any one dealing with ODD? my 3 1/2 year old is being sent to a psychologist because his Dr thinks he has this along with ADHD, the hardest thing I am dealing with is the violence, it is ALL THE TIME, he actually sent my 13 year old to the ER. I am feeling alone and completely defeated
My son was actually diagnosed with ODD when he was 3.5 years old. Though honestly now at 6.5 I don't think the diagnosis fits him anymore. I have read that somewhere around 60% of children diagnosed with ODD, don't fit the diagnosis within 3 years. The biggest thing that helped with him was consistancy, It is key!! And picking battles.
Here is some other things I found online that may help....
A child with ODD can be very difficult for parents. These parents need support and understanding. Parents can help their child with ODD in the following ways:
•Always build on the positives, give the child praise and positive reinforcement when he shows flexibility or cooperation.
•Take a time-out or break if you are about to make the conflict with your child worse, not better. This is good modeling for your child. Support your child if he decides to take a time-out to prevent overreacting.
•Pick your battles. Since the child with ODD has trouble avoiding power struggles, prioritize the things you want your child to do. If you give your child a time-out in his room for misbehavior, don’t add time for arguing. Say “your time will start when you go to your room.”
•Set up reasonable, age appropriate limits with consequences that can be enforced consistently.
•Maintain interests other than your child with ODD, so that managing your child doesn’t take all your time and energy. Try to work with and obtain support from the other adults (teachers, coaches, and spouse) dealing with your child.
•Manage your own stress with healthy life choices such as exercise and relaxation. Use respite care and other breaks as neededHere are a couple of helpful websites that talk about treatment and such.... Children With Oppositional Defiant Disorder | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry Oppositional Defiant Disorder (ODD) Symptoms Treatment FAQs on Oppositional Defiant Disorder | American Academy of Child & Adolescent Psychiatry
ODD is not fun and very hard to handle, if you need to chat, vent, ask questions, etc you can post here or pm me.
I have 2 daughters that have ADHD & ODD. My oldest (who is now 5 1/2) was diagnosed at 4 and my (almost) 4 year old was diagnosed at 3. Both are medicated and it has made a world of difference.
Gabriella was VERY obvious. She used to slam Alina's head into the marble coffee table, and threw her into walls. She talked about death, a lot.... she told us how people should die. She was never exposed to this with TV or anything, so it was baffling to us. Both of us thought the doctor was making ODD up when he told us that it was a major contributor to her problems. The first medication she was on way Vyvance. It seemed okay at first, but when he raised her to the 30mg dose, she began having hallucinations and was literally high as a kite. I told the doctor we needed to change her med. Sine then, she has been on Respidone, and it is working great for her. Alina's symptoms were totally different. She does not have the violence as much as the complete and udder lack of respect. She does the exact opposite of what we expect of her, all the time. Her dose has been raised rapidly, and its effects are thinning. She is awake most of the night, and I am at my wits end with her. I am waiting to hear back from her doctor in regards to this, because I am loosing my mind, as is DH.
I took him in for his appt today and he was diagnosed with ADHD and a mood disorder... he will be doing intensive home therapy and we will meet with another Dr about meds. at this point I will do anything to make it easier. last night he tried to stab the dog with a fork it is so hard to deal with him
Glad you were able to get something started to help him. Is the intensive home therapy ABA (applied behavioral analysis)? If so my oldest has gotten ABA for almost 2 years now and it has made a world of difference (he also has autism).
Sorry you are having a hard time with him.