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July 23rd, 2008, 09:18 AM
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Ok sooo i know some people are gonna read this and be offended. I'm sorry, but i have to say this. I lurk here and on the other c/s board alot but don't post much. Anyhow i didn't respond to the now closed post of "what do you think of women who want c/s" and there is now a post on the other board about how women who choose c/s shouldn't be judged and that thier birth is still a birth. Well i want to say that yes, of course your birth is still a birth, DUH! And the outcome of the birth is the same, an amazing child - But unless there are complications that would make a c/s the SAFEST option for baby and mother why oh why would someone choose to do that to themselves? Vaginal/natural IS better because hello its natural. Its what your body is intended to do, it is really its sole primal purpose. Repeat C/S are not required, nor are they the safer option. And as far as it being a womans choice, yes thats all fine and good but what about the impact that choice has on the perceptions of the rest of society. C/S have become more and more and more common because more and more women are choosing and allowing doctors to push them into sections that are NOT necessary. It makes it much more acceptable for that trend to continue, despite the risks. There are very few examples that i can think of where the natural alternative is not better than a medicinal one. ALso, regarding the fact that many women justify their c/s well that happens because it is assumed and rightly so that the c/s was required for one reason or another due to complications because otherwise it is unnecessary. C/S were created specifically for emergency delivery not just to be another option of birthing a baby. This is why CHOOSING a c/s is such an odd thing to do. Most people will not understand the choice. It has nothing to do with you being less of a mother or that they care more about the birth part than the outcome. It is the CHOICE that baffles. I'm sorry if this is kinda all over the place but after reading so many posts and not responding i need to get it out.
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July 23rd, 2008, 09:33 AM
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^^^^^Well said.

If more women would start demanding their right to VBAC, then it wouldn't be so taboo in our society and more people would have the opportunity to VBAC. Especially since there is research that PROVES that VBAC is safer than repeat c-section in low risk pregnancies. But some people just ignore the research. It's sad and it DOES have a negative impact on those of us who do want to VBAC.
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July 23rd, 2008, 02:04 PM
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I do agree as well. It was very well said!

I agree that if more people paid attention to research and to the proven health facts, there would be a greater acceptance of VBAC's.
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July 23rd, 2008, 02:39 PM
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Well,

i do respect your opinion, but at the same time it comes back to, why do you care what other women are doing with their pregnancies. I would never tell you i think you are crazy for wanting a vbac, so why would you tell someone they are crazy for wanting a repeat csection?

my daughter was breech, and too big to do a version, so i had a csection at 41 weeks. i never have felt regret for that. as for my next pregnancy, i am unsure what i will do. When the time comes for me to make a decision, i will discuss all options with my doctor, and find out what is best for me. in my opinion, this is what all csection moms should do. research only takes you so far, personal history and comfort level should be the final factor in decisions.
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July 23rd, 2008, 07:23 PM
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Well,

i do respect your opinion, but at the same time it comes back to, why do you care what other women are doing with their pregnancies. I would never tell you i think you are crazy for wanting a vbac, so why would you tell someone they are crazy for wanting a repeat csection?

my daughter was breech, and too big to do a version, so i had a csection at 41 weeks. i never have felt regret for that. as for my next pregnancy, i am unsure what i will do. When the time comes for me to make a decision, i will discuss all options with my doctor, and find out what is best for me. in my opinion, this is what all csection moms should do. research only takes you so far, personal history and comfort level should be the final factor in decisions.[/b]
This is exactly my point. You needed a section. If your LO was not breech would you have gone and said "could i please have a c/s?" And all c/s moms should find out what is best for them but so often don't because they only listen to their docs or have unsound reasoning or believe whatever they hear like the vagina stretching thing.
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Well,

i do respect your opinion, but at the same time it comes back to, why do you care what other women are doing with their pregnancies. I would never tell you i think you are crazy for wanting a vbac, so why would you tell someone they are crazy for wanting a repeat csection?

my daughter was breech, and too big to do a version, so i had a csection at 41 weeks. i never have felt regret for that. as for my next pregnancy, i am unsure what i will do. When the time comes for me to make a decision, i will discuss all options with my doctor, and find out what is best for me. in my opinion, this is what all csection moms should do. research only takes you so far, personal history and comfort level should be the final factor in decisions.[/b]
So if you never felt grief over having to have a cesarean, then I can't help but wonder why you are posting on the c/section GRIEF board?
Some of us got a lot of flack for expressing negative opinions about our c-section on the c/sec support board and now that we DO have a place where we can come to express those feelings, suddenly csection mothers are coming out of the woodwork on to this board to defend their c-sections and tell us that we shouldn't care what other people do, etc.
This is a board that was made for us c-section moms who were not happy with our cesareans, who do/did feel grief over it and would like to talk to other c-sec moms who experienced similar feelings. It's not to debate c-sections and how you should or shouldn't feel about them. KWIM? I totally understand that there are two sides to every story, but that is why there are now TWO c-section board....one for c-section support and one for c-section grief. Just sayin'.
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July 24th, 2008, 07:37 AM
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This is exactly my point. You needed a section. If your LO was not breech would you have gone and said "could i please have a c/s?" And all c/s moms should find out what is best for them but so often don't because they only listen to their docs or have unsound reasoning or believe whatever they hear like the vagina stretching thing.[/b]

Oh heck no i would have NEVER opted for a csection. It was an extremely painful experience, emotionally and physically. I would have taken having a vaginal birth over it any day. however, i wasnt given that option, so why live in regret for it. I would like to know what its like to experience a vaginal birth, i just dont know if its in my cards, so i take my life one day at a time, and when the time comes then ill decide. There are days when i am terrified at the thought of a vbac, i havent handled having a scar on my stomach very well, i often find myself terriefied to even lay wrong for fear of something ripping on the inside. So the thought of pushing a baby out So i have looked to these boards for stories, opinions and experiences of others. I didnt think that i had to be 100% supporter either way, to post my opinions on this board, or that board. i thought that these boards were to offer support, and not always critize each other. I occasionally read both boards, im not a big poster on either csection board, and in my opinion, i am not for either side. i like to read what both sides have to say. Ive noticed that a few of you had vbacs, and its nice to read your stories.

Like i said, im not critizing anyone. I think its great that vbac's are available, and that there are women taking advantage of it, but at the same time, its hurtful to see women being critized for their choice on having a REPEAT c/s, considering i may be one of those women one day.

i dont agree with asking for your first birth to be a c/s for no reason, thats just crazy.

I understand the Grief part of this board, but in my opinion, i think it should be your OWN greif, and not be the grief for other women. i wont post here anymore.
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