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I am not usually one to freak out about things, especially medical procedures, but I am about having a c-section! This is my 2nd child. My first was delivered vaginally with complications (to me not the baby) and that along with high BP from thyroid disease I am scheduled to have a c-section with this one. Ok, I accept that, no problem! But I am SCARED to death about the recovery for some reason. I am a wuss when it comes to pain, I admit it and I am worried that I won't be able to handle it. I am also very concerned about my incision not healing properly since I have a "pooch" that hangs over that area. It is also becoming a logistical nightmare to arrange to have "help" after I come home from the hospital. My DH just found out his schedule is changing to nights so that's gonna be a PITA since I will be all by myself at night and we have 4 dogs that need to be taken care of! LOL IDK, I'm just worried about a lot of different things I guess. Help me feel better please
Take a deep breath...... everything will work out!!!!!!
The recovery really wasn't as bad as I imagined it would be - and my biggest piece of advice is to keep on top of your pain meds.... don't try to be a martyr & get by without them - because it's amazing how much easier life is when you do take them - I found it much easier to concentrate on Gaby when I did, because every 10 seconds I wasn't thinking "ow this hurts this hurts this hurts"... (not that it was ever really that bad, after the first couple of days)...
I am obese & have a lovely skin flap covering my incision - and my incision healed just fine - so long as you keep it clean & dry, you shouldn't have any problems... and if you do notice it smells a bit funky, or it is getting a bit infected looking, antibiotics will clear it up quick smart!
I understand about the logistics of finding help! I'm a single Mum, and have had to ask my Mum to take a week off work, and my sister to take a week off work, so that I can have some help - the first two or so weeks were the worst after I had Gaby, and i know that the more help I have then, the quicker I'm going to start feeling back to normal...
Have you found out if there are any home help agencies that could help you out? The biggest housework job I had problems with was the washing, and after that, probably doing the dishes (standing at the sink hurt like a mo-fo)... But like I said, after a couple of weeks i was feeling pretty good.... You do need to remember to try & take it easy though, because it is verrrrrrrrrrry easy to think "hey - I'm feeling really good" & then overdo it
I'm afraid too. I have no friends or family here, but my mom will come out for 2 weeks to help. I hope that's enough time to handle the baby by myself. My hubby will take two weeks too (but overlapping).
My only fear about being prego was, "what if I have a c-section!" Well, I ended up with an emergency section so I hadn't put any prior thought to actually having one. It was sooooo much easier than I thought it would be. I was up walking around the next day, moving more and more each day. I really fellt good. The gas pains after sucked and the jiggle in my belly when I walked was strange, but overall was fairly easy.
You'll be fine! I only had DH home for 6 days after I got home and was more than ok to take care of the dogs and baby then!
Well that's all good the hear! I have no problems taking meds when I need them and I've read that enough that it is stuck in my head now! LOL I'm sure I will be fine, it's just dealing with the "unknown" that's all. I'm such a planner and I like to know how things are going to go ahead of time
Its really not too bad. 36 hours after my last c/s I was shopping at Target. There are things I hate much more than the section and recovery. Just the other day I was getting my eyebrows waxed and I thought that I would much rather have a c/s than do that. I really hate waxing.
36 hours after my last c/s I was shopping at Target.
Wow you went shopping 36hrs after you c/s? That's incredible.
I was told I can stay either 3 or 4 dys in the hospital after the C-section. So if the nurses are nice I will stay as long as I can b/c they will feed me, bring me drinks, meds, help me to the bathroom and help me w/ the baby. Plus I can ask them all the questions I have. I am actually looking forward to that.
My parents will come and stay w/ me and I know if I needed more help, my MIL would come after my parents leave. I would try to get someone to help you. Even though if your DH is home during the day he can help you - it's kind of perfect (unless he is sleeping of course). If you can't get anybody than prepare ahead of time. Have the fridge stocked, maybe even some meals prepared and frozen and also have stuff for the dogs (like enough dog food in the house).
I was nervous in the beginning, too. But it will be ok. When is your C-section?
I've had 2 c sections, and will have another one. The recovery room isn't bad at all. I had my mom and DH in there with me, they were doing all of the baby's measurements and it went super fast. The nurses were amazing. I got to hold my baby for the first time while in recovery. I'm very much looking forward to my extended stay at the hospital, for extra bonding time with my baby girl. I had an emerg. c section the first time, and a planned one last time, I was soo nervous with my last one, because the first one I had to be put to sleep to get my son out super fast.
Don't worry about the healing, I have the extra "pooch" too, and mine healed wonderfully both times. As a matter of fact, DH says you can hardly see it now, and thats only 9 months afterwards. Usually when I would take a shower, I would let water run over it, I know, you're not supossed to, but then I'd pat it dry, and if it felt extra sweaty or something inbetween showers, I'd take a baby wipe and pat it. Its refreshing. I hope your fears are a little more at ease after talking to the other ladies
With my first c=section I freaked out anout nothing. It wasnt as bad and horrific as the websites make it seem. I was walking the next morning and wearing my own clothes, granted they were like work out ones but WAAAAY better then hospital gowns tha show your butt LOL Recovery was easy I was toteing him around and feeding him. Just didnt lift anything heavier then he was.
With the twis, when they did the surgury they didnt strap my hands on the table and make me feel like Jesus LOL I just rested them on my chest and watched in the mirror WAY COOL!!!! The recovery for that was even easier. I was walking as soon as the spinal wore off and was out of the hospital in 3 days.
But I warn you.... taking that first poop after the surgeries is the worst!
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I just met someone today at a friends son's 1st b-day party and she has two kids. Her first she had a 4th degree tear (same as me) and second was a c/s. She told me hands down that the recovery from a c/s was way easier than dealing with the episiotomy!!! I can totally relate cause I was miserable after my first!
Yes I do feel better after hearing some "real" stories! I doubt I will be shopping at Target 3 days later but if I can manage to let the dogs out once or twice that would be good Yes DH will be home for at least a few days. And I will also have my MIL and a couple friends from church to stop in and check up on me. Then my BFF is flying in for a week after DH goes back to work, so I should be good. There is a group at church that cooks and will bring dinner by for the first week or so and that will be a huge help. Wow, now that I typed that all out I realize that I will have quite a bit of help
Oh and my c/s is scheduled for 5/19/10 as long as my BP and Thyroid behave themselves...
Also just wanted to throw in there, I had my son at 9:20am... and by 7pm I was up and walking... it really makes you feel better when you can walk yourself. I still needed help getting up and to the bathroom for the night, but after that I was good!