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So I really really need some advice on c-sections. I have had 2 proir vaginal deliveries. My first resulted in having to have a perineal repair. My daughter did not tear me that bad, but the tissue got infected and the sutures came out and made the tears I had worse so they went back a month later and cut and re-did my area. The second, she ripped my ureathra, not any old scar tissue, but it did heal w/in 4 weeks. The second was painful but that was the only tearing that I had had. Now I am 32 weeks pregnant with my 3rd and my doctor is suggesting that with my past experience that I have a c-section. I am confused because after my repair they did not offer it to me with my second child. But now they are. Either way I have prayed and talked to many people and my gut is telling me not to do it, but my doc is insisting that it would be better than risking a rougher tear. This baby is bigger than my previous but most women I know have torn less with bigger babies. I am confused on what I should do. I do not have the support to do the recovery time with a c-section. My husband can only take 3 days off of work, (my hosp time) and we have 2 small children at home that we have no one to watch while I am away. One has to get to school. When I do get home, I walk my oldest to school everyday, so I do not see how I can walk a block away with a 6 year old, a 3 year old, and a newborn in the cold right 4 days after a major surgery. I dont live in the best area and the people around there are not trustworthy to take my child to school for me. Our families live on another side of town and are too busy to help. I just feel in my gut and rationally, that risking a vaginal birth would be easier. Opinions?
I have not had vaginal tears myself but, have heard of your situation leading into a C section. I'm just going to say if it were me, I would want to do the C section. A mom I know was torn pretty badly and had scar tissue, etc. It greatly effected her sex life due to the damage that was done.
I've had two C sections and although they aren't painless and it is major surgery, it is a safe alternative if you're due to tear badly, etc.
I hope you can come to terms with either way and that you have a safe and happy birth experience!
Melanie, mama to Kaia, Ewan, and Paige
Paige Clementine born October 23, 2013