[3Xblessed]

to people who are critical of your births? I often have to deal with people who don't think that c/s was a good choice. That if I had just tried harder or longer that I could have had a "normal" birth. People that think there are very few medical reasons for c/s.


I try to tell them that mine were medically justified. I also let them know that I do not feel like I missed anything. I did give birth and I have the children (and scar) to prove it. My vbac doctor told all of us who were trying for it that you pay for birth in pain either way....either during the actual birth if you have a vaginal birth or afterwards if you have a c/s. Many of us have paid both times. I was in labor 12 hours with my 3rd child...and then had a c/s.

[BensMom]

For the most part, I just ignore people's comments. They're usually just wanting to pick a fight, so ignoring them ticks them off even more!

[4wildflowers]

I've never had anyone say negative things to me about my c-sections. Many of my friends, and my own mother have had sections, so it's not an unusual thing in my circle.

[imcloudnine]

For the most part I try to ignore it. Most of the people that have a problem with me having a c-section are my own family so I just let things go- my SIL's comments on the other hand are really starting to get to me and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle that. She thinks that she needs to make rude comments about c-sections everytime I see her.

[mwp921]

Honestly it bothered me more in the first month after my daughter was born. It doesn't bother me at all anymore. Whether medically necessary or by choice, it's none of their business.

People can be so tacky and rude.

I haven't had anyone make negative comments about it. But then again not too many people ask me about the birth. It is mainly, "OMG! How much does he weigh?" And to be honest, that aggrivates me more. I want to ask them the same question. LOL

[mommybug77]

If I feel the need to say anything than I say I did what was best. I do not feel that I have to explain myself or my choices to anyone. I don't go around asking why someone chose to deliver how they did. I don't feel as though I am any less of a women/mother or that I cheated myself of anything.

[*Cassie*]

Noone has really commented, but mine was medically necessary and my family all knows that. I had a c/s after 11.5 hours of labor. His heart rate was dropping and he was not doing well at the end, so he needed to get out. My family all knows that, so noone has really commented negatively.

[cupcake]

I have never had anyone comment on it. I tried a VBAC with the 2nd one, and it didn't work, so noone can say I didn't try!LOL

[macsmom]

Hey girls. I always respond to the question..."Did you have your baby naturally"? With, having a baby any way is natural! I chose to have both C-sections and I would not have done it any different!
Thanks for letting me share.

It all depends on who it is and the attitude they have about asking. Some people are genuinely interested in knowing hte experience and dont know how to ask it. While others are just down right rude about it. I try to explain the whole csection process and actually go into detail about my first delivery experience but for those who are just being rude about it i generally choose not to respond unless i am just in a bad mood and hten i let them have what ever comes off the top of my head.

[sahmof3]

I try not to care, but I get aggravated about it. Not so much aggravated that some people in my life (mainly dh's family) are critical of all births that are not COMPLETELY natural, but more frustrated that I can't make them understand that I'm proud of my births and enjoyed the experience (the overall experience that is- I didn't enjoy every painful minute- LOL)- even the birth that I had to be put under general anesthesia for. Some people act like that would be the end of the world. It does make me mad when people will try to convince me that I couldn't have properly bonded with my youngest son because I wasn't awake for his birth- BULL.

Anyway, I had a long, hard, undilating labor with my first baby and later found out that I have scarring of the cervix from a D&C and can't dilate, so it was repeat C's for me. I was never opposed to having a c-section, so I don't see it as that big of a deal and never had feelings like I was a failure for having C's.

[Miranda and Maria's mommy]

Only one person has made rude comments and she herself is due in about 2 months...

I spent 2.5 days in labour, went through tonnes of pain with a baby that wouldn't drop, cervix that wouldn't dilate pass 3 cm and a baby that was sunny side up....She told me that if I didn't get the epidural then all that would have fixed itself and I would have delivered normally...And that she will be doing everything naturally, she won't be a 'chicken'...I am anxious to see how she does and hopefully she doesn't have to eat her words...

[lilbluedolphin]

to people who are critical of your births? I often have to deal with people who don't think that c/s was a good choice. That if I had just tried harder or longer that I could have had a "normal" birth. People that think there are very few medical reasons for c/s.


I try to tell them that mine were medically justified. I also let them know that I do not feel like I missed anything. I did give birth and I have the children (and scar) to prove it. My vbac doctor told all of us who were trying for it that you pay for birth in pain either way....either during the actual birth if you have a vaginal birth or afterwards if you have a c/s. Many of us have paid both times. I was in labor 12 hours with my 3rd child...and then had a c/s.[/b]

DITTO to everything that has already been said. I just usally ignore the rude person, or give them an evil look. My c-section was deffinatly medically justified as both of us would have died if it were not for c-sections and trust me after 31 hours of labor and 5 hours of pushing I was so very ready for a c-section. What gets me the most is the people that make is sound like the only reason I had problems was because I was induced 3 weeks early. In fact my OB told me that probally is why Max is A) alive and B) doesnt have any severe brain damage. Just look at them and say I dont critize the medical decisions you make about your health and your familes health, so what gives you the right to do so with mine. Then tell them I carried my baby for 9 months and I gave birth to a beautiful baby and that is all that matters to me, thank you very much.

[sahmof3]

Oh yeah... and since dh's family has really small babies I can just say, "You try pushing out a baby over 9 lbs. with a 14" head"... they can't really say anything about it- they don't know if it would have been possible for them or not!

[mommas2favs]

For the most part, I try to let those type of comments just wash off my shoulder like I never heard it at all.
I had one woman tell me that I wouldn't be a good mother because I hadn't "experienced" a true labor and delivery. I just told her that her comment wouldn't be dignified with a response. She gave me an insulted look. But I smiled and walked away, proudly pushing my sleeping baby's stroller.
Don't let these type of people get under your skin. You know the truth, and that's all that matters. You know that it was the best choice or option for you and your baby.

Even though I didn't plan on having a c-section I still feel like I need to explain it. I will say though that I have only had one or two nasty "You took the easy way out" comments; but then again my state has a nearly 35% c-section rate so they are pretty common in my neck of the woods.

[Barbi]

I honestly have not had any bad comments made to my face. I am not sure about behind my back.