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January 5th, 2009, 04:28 PM
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I always thought I wanted just two kids. A boy and a girl I thought would be perfect. And now we have a boy and a girl. DS: 4 months and DD: 2 1/2. I swear almost as soon as I had DS I knew I wanted another baby. At first I just thought it was a feeling from the excitement of just having a baby but I still want another (and who knows maybe even a fourth).

My family is on my case to get "fixed." They say we don't need any more and that it is wrong to want more when we have two great kids but I disagree. But now I am torn listening to all their comments all the time.
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January 5th, 2009, 04:56 PM
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Hon, I feel for ya on the family thing! Some people in my family are very critical of our choice to have a large family (with our four kids we have the most children of anyone else in our family excluding our parents). Our parents are extremely supportive though. There are some things that you learn from having a large family that you can't learn in any other way in childhood - sharing is a must, cooperation, working in groups, loving lots of people who are all very different, learning to get along, etc. I love the idea that our kids will have tons of siblings to call for advice, lean on when they need help, call when they are bored and want someone to hang with, etc. Plus, they all look out for one another and family comes first. This decision is strictly yours to make. Do what you feel is best for you and DH and your family. Some people choose to have fewer children and their choice is equally right - it is all about priorities and what is most important to you. The biggest arguement I hear against us having more kids is money - college money, money for "extra things", money for expensive vacations, etc. We chose kids over all of that. We want kids more than extra money, extravagant vacations, nice things, etc. GL with whatever decision you make, but don't let other people decide for you - you will decide (with your DH) what is best for your family and don't let people bully you out of it GL!!!!

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January 5th, 2009, 05:45 PM
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I really could care less how other's felt about us wanting and haveing a large family.

We are raising our kids and we are blessed to be able to have all the *extra's* It is not and never will be anyone's bussiness.

It is your choice dont let anyone make it for you.
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January 7th, 2009, 02:07 PM
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I would just ignore them and not allow them to take away from your desires and happiness. Do what you can, but it's not up to them, it's between you and your husband, it's your family. I have 3 and am pregnant with #4, and my siblings think it's wrong and irresponsible and how can anyone possibly love so many kids. We do have the most kids on both sides. So, I ignore their comments and move on. I am happy and we'd like more after this one, although during morning sickness I didn't feel so sure for a moment or two. .
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January 10th, 2009, 09:26 PM
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Good luck! And don't listen to other people!!!
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