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March 16th, 2009, 11:59 AM
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Hello Mommies,

I am a mother of 5, ages 8, 4, 2, 2 and 10 months. I am currently 6 weeks pregnant and dreading telling family members and others.

How did you deal with non-congratulatory remarks? I feel I'm too fragile emotionally and may either give them a piece of my mind or shut down.

Because I just had my son 10 months ago, I already have a little pouch and folks are look twice at work (where I also catch grief).

Help!
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March 17th, 2009, 04:52 PM
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I just say things like "yes, we have been blessed again" or if they are rude I say things like "you don't pay my mortgage so your opinion doesn't really count." Depends on the person and if they are being rude or simply making the silly comments I hear daily. I realize if you respond positively you get a better response, it's almost like they are waiting for a negative comment so they can say "well, why did you get pregnant again?!" I also have said to people "We make such beautiful amazing children we figured why not have another one?" People expect negativity in our culture, so shooting out something positive usually is a better way to go. Oh, and who cares what others say? As long as you and your family are happy! Congrats!!!
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March 21st, 2009, 10:14 AM
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Sweetie, you need to just ignore them and if they keep at it, tell them you do not appreciate their judgment as they have no right to do so.

Congrats mama!
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March 21st, 2009, 11:50 AM
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I know the feeling, my 5th was 10 mos old when I got pregnant with my 6th and got horrible remarks from both sides of the family. We are now TTC again (my youngest will be 11 mos tomorrow) and when we conceive we arent telling either side of the family at all. We don't see them very often, so once they notice, then they notice and we'll deal with it then.
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March 22nd, 2009, 05:26 PM
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Tell them when you HAVE too.Maybe you be emotionally better by then.People only make rude comments to get you going,I say kill'em with kindness.Let them know who happy you are about having the baby.I hope the very best for you and your family.
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March 31st, 2009, 04:11 PM
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When I got pregnant w/ #4 I sent out an e-mail. I said we were very happy and if they didn't have anything nice to say then keep it to themselves. I didn't get any negative cooments from any family then.
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