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First off I just want to say that I hope no one is offended by this post cause I'm certainly not trying to make anyone feel bad. One of my really close friends came by today with her 2 1/2 year old son so that he could play with our DD (who is almost 2). My friend has made it clear since she gave birth to her son that they are not having anymore children because they just want to spoil their son rotten and give him all of their attention (her words, not mine). I know that it's completely their decision and I would never say anything to her since it's really none of my business how many children they have, but I just can't understand why someone would only want to have one child. I could understand if you have financial, marital, or fertility problems, but my friend has none of those things so I'm just surprised that they don't want anymore children. I love having babies and want as many children as DH will allow! LOL! I guess maybe I'm weird, but I just can't see only having one baby. My children are so close and they love eachother soooo much. It makes me happy to see them interact with eachother and love eachother. I feel sad for her son that he will never get to grow up with a sibling
I agree Kristen. Not so sure all of what I can say in here without offending anyone...I guess that is just how she feels...just like we want lots of children ......I think I would have been slightly offended in her saying that, beings you have more than one child. It kind of implies that you don't give (or people who have more than one in general) their children enough attention and that you can't spoil your children unless you only have one. To me, IMO, I don't think having children and raising them should focus on what we can get them and how much we can spoil them...to me, IMO, having children is to love them, to be loved by them, to enjoy them in everything they do and accomplish. My children are my life and I'm glad they have siblings to enjoy their life with.
__________________ <div align="center">Denise, loving wife to Kyle, and the bestest mommy in the whole wide world of Kelsey (16), Meaghan (13), Timmy (9) and Lauren (6)!!!!!!!!</div>
I choose to feel sorry for those that think that way. I feel badly for friends' kids who don't know what it's like to share. I think about my kids having built in support systems when my husband and I are no longer here, etc. I have had people say that before, and I just smile, knowing I am happy with our decision!
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