SO changed his mind

mommaof3boys · #1 October 29th, 2008, 03:33 AM

He says he doesn't want any more now. I guess I am done ttc.

sjkduke · #2 October 29th, 2008, 03:43 AM

Oh hon, I'm so sorry. Maybe he'll come around in a bit. I know mine did that at first, and then changed his mind again.

#3 October 29th, 2008, 05:18 AM

I was told we'd have none!

Did he give you reasons for this change of mind?

~Angela~ · #4 October 29th, 2008, 05:45 AM

I'm sorry! Did he say why? My DH said no more for a long time (3 years actually) and has recently graduated to NTNP, so there is hope.

mommaof3boys · #5 October 29th, 2008, 05:52 AM

I was really sick yesterday with the flue I guess he doesn't want to have to go through it again. I am pretty sick while I'm pregnant.

I got some good news thought my sister is pregnant.

~Angela~ · #6 October 29th, 2008, 05:55 AM

Maybe you can sway him to NTNP? Then it's not really thinking about it on his end? That sucks...but 3 months yuck is so worth the end.

kruff79 · #7 October 29th, 2008, 07:04 AM

It took me 5 years of dating to convince my DH that adding another baby to our family zoo wouldn't make that big of an impact on his "perfect picture" (he's the one that believes every child should have everything, its our biggest fight other than the thermostat) and then 2 years of marriage before he agreed that it would not only be O.K. it would be good! Don't loose hope, just because he changed his mind right now doesn't mean it will stay that way!

*KittyCat* · #8 October 29th, 2008, 11:20 AM

I hope he will change his mind in time, don't give up

mommaof3boys · #9 October 29th, 2008, 11:21 AM

I think I will still chart just in case he changes his mind

Niamh ૐ · #10 October 29th, 2008, 01:14 PM

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Good plan!

So sorry hun!

#11 October 29th, 2008, 01:24 PM

Congrats to your sister!!

My only advice to you is to weigh up your reasons for wanting another child, and try to explain these to him as thoroughly as you can.

I had this issue with my DH, we got married in July 2006, and he knew how important having children was to me. In Dec 2006, he told me he never wanted to have any kids, that he was too selfish, etc, etc. Jan 2007, he had a change of plan and we both agreed I came off BCP due to health issues, we NTNP until Jan 2008 when we got down to nitty gritty trying... here we are!

The best thing I did was wrote down all my reasons for a baby, and our combined reasons against (finances was pretty much the only against!). and talked it out with him, it made him realise being a wife and a mum was the reason I was put in this world. I wish you luck! KUP!

alicenwonderland · #12 October 30th, 2008, 02:24 PM

I'm sorry, i hope you are able to convince DH otherwise!

mommaof3boys · #13 October 31st, 2008, 04:13 AM

I don't think he is going to change his mind at least not for a long time. We had a long talk last night. He said that we have enough childern. Finances have gotten a tighter than I had previously known. So for now it is a no go. Maybe in a few years. WHo knows