Do you have this problem?

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #1 June 10th, 2009, 05:59 AM

Dh tends to want to bd as soon as AF ends. I think it is because he doesn't get any for a few days. LOL. Then he will want to bd a lot and get burnt out on bding by the time we get close to ovulating.

I am trying to pace things a little better this cycle and then go crazy when I get closer to ovulating. I really hope I ovulate early this month. I am impatient.

Kris2you · #2 June 10th, 2009, 06:28 AM

This cycle I'm on, dh and I bd'ed every other day after AF and it was hard...very. I think next cycle I'll try to time it better but with clomid it's hard to know when you might O because I don't get EWCM with it.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #3 June 10th, 2009, 06:54 AM

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Originally Posted by Kris2you

This cycle I'm on, dh and I bd'ed every other day after AF and it was hard...very. I think next cycle I'll try to time it better but with clomid it's hard to know when you might O because I don't get EWCM with it.

I see. I didn't realize you were taking Clomid. I don't know why... you have it in your sig and everything. I just wasn't paying attention.

AmandaHugNKiss · #4 June 10th, 2009, 07:39 AM

Nope, I don't have that problem for several reasons:

Firstly, SO and I don't live together (it's something we're working towards, little bit of a logistical nightmare right now) and therefore don't get to BD as much as we'd like anyway.

Secondly, we don't have any issues with BD'ing when af is in town. I don't get any pain so... what's a bit of blood? It's not like there aren't already a lot of bodily fluids in the mix anyway!

And, yet more logistical issues... he has his daughter every other weekend and her mother objects to me. For now, we're letting the issue ride as the mother is literally spitting nails and it's affecting his daughter so every other weekend I don't see him at all :/ We'll eventually have to take the bull by the horns and integrate but for now that's how things are. Of course, I'm CD 9 and he has her this weekend... which will be CD11, 12 and 13... Last month I O'd on CD13 *hits head in frustration*

If only I could count 'burn out' as a problem!

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #5 June 10th, 2009, 07:47 AM

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Originally Posted by AmandaHugNKiss

Nope, I don't have that problem for several reasons:

Firstly, SO and I don't live together (it's something we're working towards, little bit of a logistical nightmare right now) and therefore don't get to BD as much as we'd like anyway.

Secondly, we don't have any issues with BD'ing when af is in town. I don't get any pain so... what's a bit of blood? It's not like there aren't already a lot of bodily fluids in the mix anyway!

And, yet more logistical issues... he has his daughter every other weekend and her mother objects to me. For now, we're letting the issue ride as the mother is literally spitting nails and it's affecting his daughter so every other weekend I don't see him at all :/ We'll eventually have to take the bull by the horns and integrate but for now that's how things are. Of course, I'm CD 9 and he has her this weekend... which will be CD11, 12 and 13... Last month I O'd on CD13 *hits head in frustration*

If only I could count 'burn out' as a problem!

Well I have very heavy AFs in the beginning. When I was younger I used to bd while AF was in town but now it is just too messy and uncomfortable. We do bd when AF is here just not while it is really heavy. I have like almost two week long AFs so if I didn't we wouldn't get to do much bding.

Dh and I have been together since I was 18 so we have had 16 years worth of bding. So well... I love dh and we have a great love life but... the thrill is just not the same anymore. I think that is why we fizzle out sometimes.

AmandaHugNKiss · #6 June 10th, 2009, 08:03 AM

Ah, yeah, if it's heavy (plus painful) I can understand. Mine used to be like that when I was younger - I'd throw up each month I was in so much pain... clearly not criteria for 'being in the mood'

My ex-dh and I were together 13 years so I know exactly what you're saying about...uh, being in a comfort zone

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #7 June 10th, 2009, 08:13 AM

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Originally Posted by AmandaHugNKiss

My ex-dh and I were together 13 years so I know exactly what you're saying about...uh, being in a comfort zone

Yeh, the comfortable thing can be a good thing and a bad thing. We are trying to spice things up this month but we still tend to be predictable. Sorry for the tmi. I ordered some lingerie and am waiting for it to arrive. I like don't have anything sexy anymore. I am hoping the extra tiny bit of excitement does the trick this month. LOL.

AmandaHugNKiss · #8 June 10th, 2009, 10:13 AM

It's a double edged sword for sure... there's nothing better in the world than being intimate with someone who knows you in and out, knows your buttons. But it also can easily become routine.

If you know your man has a particular 'weakness' (my ex-dh it was stockings... boy, they would spice things up amazingly even 13 years down the line!

) - and men tend to be visual creatures - then go for it and exploit that! THe hard thing is picking something 'for him' rather than yourself - at least, I would have that problem. For him, it was all about how it felt (he liked silky stuff) and really didn't matter if it colour co-ordinated or not! I prefer everything to match and like embroidered/lace but that wouldn't feel right for him so... Yeah. As I say, pick something you know will do the trick for him even if it wouldn't be your first choice. THe benefits you reap will be worth it!

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #9 June 10th, 2009, 11:05 AM

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Originally Posted by AmandaHugNKiss

It's a double edged sword for sure... there's nothing better in the world than being intimate with someone who knows you in and out, knows your buttons. But it also can easily become routine.

If you know your man has a particular 'weakness' (my ex-dh it was stockings... boy, they would spice things up amazingly even 13 years down the line!

) - and men tend to be visual creatures - then go for it and exploit that! THe hard thing is picking something 'for him' rather than yourself - at least, I would have that problem. For him, it was all about how it felt (he liked silky stuff) and really didn't matter if it colour co-ordinated or not! I prefer everything to match and like embroidered/lace but that wouldn't feel right for him so... Yeah. As I say, pick something you know will do the trick for him even if it wouldn't be your first choice. THe benefits you reap will be worth it!

Oh we picked it out together so he better like it. LOL. It was actually his idea and he actually said something about hoping it arrived around the right time. I don't actually think this was about ttc though. I think that was a trick to make me think that is what it was about.

I am pretty confident about that. LMBO....

Blue Eyes 409 · #10 June 10th, 2009, 11:46 AM

My Dh is not as into BD as most men are he is happy with once an month so I really have to watch when we BD because he does not want to BD more than twice a month. I guess that is why I am still not pregnant... and why he is not willing to say we are TTC just not preventing.

alicenwonderland · #11 June 10th, 2009, 12:02 PM

haha, no DH will bd anytime anywhere. No burn out yet. Actually I take that back, there were a few cycles where he just wasn't up for bding.

Misty_X · #12 June 10th, 2009, 12:46 PM

I'm with you on the AFs, Patty. Mine are very painful and can really drag on, and it can take a while after the bleeding stops before I am able to DTD again.