For the btdt moms, if you get pregnant

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #1 June 21st, 2009, 07:12 AM

If you get pregnant again, do you plan to do anything differently when it comes to your pregnancy/parenting than you did with your other/s?

Effervescence · #2 June 21st, 2009, 08:42 AM

For parenting: We will do EC from birth instead of waiting until around five months. I will handle breastfeeding very differently, and probably obsess more over whether or not the baby is getting enough- I never want to go through "failure to thrive" again. It made me feel like an awful mother, and broke my heart to see my baby get so sick so quickly.

As for the pregnancy, we will be having a midwife instead of an OB, and are planning on a home birth (let's hope we have our own home by then LOL)

Adrienne21 · #3 June 21st, 2009, 08:46 AM

Hmm...I dont know what I would do differently. Perhaps just relax more and try to have more patience....and not freak out about everything.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #4 June 21st, 2009, 09:42 AM

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Originally Posted by pattyandthemoos

If you get pregnant again, do you plan to do anything differently when it comes to your pregnancy/parenting than you did with your other/s?

I am a pretty AP kind of mom but I don't think I will cosleep with my next baby. I coslept with all the kids and it was the biggest pain in the butt getting them out of the bed. I think I will get a bassinet and a crib next time and maybe cosleep part time. Of course, I say that now. I didn't plan to cosleep with Jeremy and he ended up in the bed with us. But I really don't think I want to this time. I am finally starting to enjoy having my bed back.

I would like to have natural childbirth with the next one. Lyndsey was an unplanned unmedicated vbac. I have an open mind with csections though so if my baby went into distress or there were complications I wouldn't get in the way of having one.

I am also thinking about trying cloth diapers again but if I do it will only be part time. Jeremy had really sensitive skin and we had mega issues with cloths.

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Originally Posted by Effervescence

For parenting: We will do EC from birth instead of waiting until around five months. I will handle breastfeeding very differently, and probably obsess more over whether or not the baby is getting enough- I never want to go through "failure to thrive" again. It made me feel like an awful mother, and broke my heart to see my baby get so sick so quickly.

As for the pregnancy, we will be having a midwife instead of an OB, and are planning on a home birth (let's hope we have our own home by then LOL)

I just wanted to tell you about my breastfeeding experience. I know I have shared this with you before. But, Brandon had failure to thrive. I couldn't make enough milk and he kept losing weight. All my other kids breastfed with no problems. In fact, with a few of my kids I had more milk than I knew what to do with. So my point is that just because you had issues with Jonah doesn't mean you will with your next one. The best thing you can do is breastfeed frequently when they are first born and try to get your supply off to a good start but if there are issues you can't let it consume you. I think you will have a better experience next time. I just do. I remember telling people after Brandon that I wasn't sure I was going to breastfeed again but then when Lyndsey was born everything went perfectly.

#5 June 21st, 2009, 09:49 AM

I will try to eat better. My last one I tended towards either junk food or not eating as much as I should have.

I am amazed, he was 7lb8oz at 36 weeks, so a pretty good size for my eating habits.

Also, I will make sure to get in with an actual OB, since my bp went to hell at the end, and I want someone who is actually more knowledgeable in that area should it happen again. (the drs I had (low risk) were fine, until then. THEN they were like, Oh, your diastolic bp is 103 and higher, WITH THE MEDICATION, but it's probably the weather, we don't need to increase the meds.

SERIOUSLY???? THE WEATHER???? So everyone in this city of one million now has dangerously high blood pressure because we have a chinook???

ANd: oh, your liver enzymes and urates are high, but it's probably anxiety, and certainly not your high blood pressure... um. Not a dr, but I can tell you that anxiety can increase bp, it CAN NOT affect your liver enxymes or urates... you know, a sign of pregnancy induced hypertension..

Sorry, I'm a bit bitter about their stupidity.

And home birth???? Oh HELL no! After what I went through (and the breech delivery) there is no way I would risk that at home, my baby would have died.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #6 June 21st, 2009, 10:25 AM

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Originally Posted by morebluethanpink

I will try to eat better. My last one I tended towards either junk food or not eating as much as I should have.

I am amazed, he was 7lb8oz at 36 weeks, so a pretty good size for my eating habits.

Also, I will make sure to get in with an actual OB, since my bp went to hell at the end, and I want someone who is actually more knowledgeable in that area should it happen again. (the drs I had (low risk) were fine, until then. THEN they were like, Oh, your diastolic bp is 103 and higher, WITH THE MEDICATION, but it's probably the weather, we don't need to increase the meds.

SERIOUSLY???? THE WEATHER???? So everyone in this city of one million now has dangerously high blood pressure because we have a chinook???

ANd: oh, your liver enzymes and urates are high, but it's probably anxiety, and certainly not your high blood pressure... um. Not a dr, but I can tell you that anxiety can increase bp, it CAN NOT affect your liver enxymes or urates... you know, a sign of pregnancy induced hypertension..

Sorry, I'm a bit bitter about their stupidity.

And home birth???? Oh HELL no! After what I went through (and the breech delivery) there is no way I would risk that at home, my baby would have died.

I do not think a midwife would generally allow someone to have a home birth if the baby is breech. Most women that have home births are low risk. I am not one of those people so it is not something I could really consider. I have had complicated pregnancies as well and I do feel that a hospital is the safest place to have a baby but at the same time I see the reasons why women would want to have a baby at home.

We have a wide variety of members on JM and I try to be supportive of everyone here.

kristenpie · #7 June 21st, 2009, 11:30 AM

I think I'll use a midwife and try and go med free. We'll see.

I will also try and not get into the habit of nursing the baby to sleep...

#8 June 21st, 2009, 11:37 AM

Oh, I'm sorry if I came across as unsuportive. I just mean the idea of a home birth scares the crap out of me! My friend accidentally had a baby at home, and I started thinking about how cool it would be (but planned, not accidental lol) but this consideration didn't last long since I'm tooo scared. I like having the professionals and suplies ready, kwim? It REALLY scares me. Becasue my fourth child TRIED the same thing as my sixth. She was breech until 35 weeks, turned head down. Until 38 weeks when she flipped back head up again. If they hadn't caught it, and my water broke...

I always have this fear of not making it to the hospital. For women who can do it, good for them, I'm just not brave enough, considering.

ESPECIALLY since, uh, my dr wouldn't have delivered him vaginally in a hospital, either, if she had known he was breech! lol I had an ultrasound four days before he was born, showing him head down. 10cm dialated and pushing is when they went, "uuhhhhhh.....baby's BUTT?!? oops!" We don't know if he turned IN labor, before labor.. never will know. But since we *thought* I was good to go for a vaginal birth - and my baby needed resucitation after he came out - I think he would have died at home, since they called in a whole crap load of nicu and obstetricians when they found his butt, all of which wouldn't have been at my home, kwim? Also, my bp went back to normal right after delivery and for the first day. We *thought* everything was good.. until it really, really wasn't. It was nice having drs there to catch it ASAP.

See why I'm scared?

DavidandJaidonsmomma · #9 June 22nd, 2009, 11:26 AM

I have a lot of things I would like to do differently.

I would prefer not to be induced and have a med free waterbith, but in order for that to happen I will have to be very strict on myself. I tend to get pregnancy induced hypertension immediately after becoming pregnant. I was induced with pitocin @ 38 weeks w/ both my boys and I don't want to endure that a third time.

I would love to breastfeed an entire year this time.

This will be my first time having a nursery and I'm very excited about that. I'm even considering learning to sew and getting a sewing machine so I can hand make the crib bedding and whatever else...lol

Thats all I can think of for now...lol

dapgal · #10 June 22nd, 2009, 02:00 PM

I will try my hardest not to co-sleep. I enjoyed it with Collin but it was hard to get him in his own bed. But with all of the night time feedings, it is easier to just keep them in the bed with you. And now we are having problems getting him off the bottle so I may want to try going from breastfeeding straight to a sippy.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #11 June 22nd, 2009, 02:15 PM

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Originally Posted by dapgal

I will try my hardest not to co-sleep. I enjoyed it with Collin but it was hard to get him in his own bed. But with all of the night time feedings, it is easier to just keep them in the bed with you. And now we are having problems getting him off the bottle so I may want to try going from breastfeeding straight to a sippy.

That is what I did with Lyndsey and Brandon. It was so much easier. They make soft spout sippy cups that are really easy for babies to use.