[Effervescence]

I'm baffled.

Warning, TMI to follow. Before I got pregnant with Jonah, DH and I were, how would you say "very active." I mean, we would cancel dates with friends, miss parties, we even DVR'd our favorite TV shows, so that we could stay in bed and BD. Our relationship was VERY physical. In fact, I think it was physical before it was ever emotional (I'm not proud of it, but it's the fact of the matter)

Since I've been pregnant with Jonah, and even more since Jonah was born, I feel like I've been neglecting that area of our relationship. As much as everyone would like to say that marriage is all about the emotional support etc, an unhealthy relationship in the bedroom really does seep into the relationship outside of the bedroom. So, our BDing lately has not only been an effort to concieve, but also my attempts to resurrect part of the relationship that DH and I had before. Keep in mind that my thoughts on sex and marriage are tied to a lot of very complicated issues from a past marriage...

So anyway, imagine my surprise when last night I came to bed and snuggled up close to DH and he said "not tonight, I'm still tired from LAST night!"

WHA???? He must be getting old or something

Does anyone else find that their DH gets tired of BDing around O time??? You see, I think that's it. Before when we'd go two, three times in a day (we're lucky if we get that in a month now HAHAHA) it was totally spontaneous and completely passionate. None of this technical "My temp is bla bla and my cervix is bla bla, so we have to do it..." I think next month instead of telling him when it "is time," I will just catch him off guard with something totally romantic and a little wild

[dapgal]

I think that a lot of couples go through this when TTC. I think that it is great that you will just surprise him with it. Seduce him in the kitchen and then make your way to the bedroom (or just stay in the kitchen, lol). Have fun.

[Tammyms]

My poor man... I can never get enough no matter what time of the month it is! And him, well he's the one who's tired or can't keep up with me, so I totally understand! But, we just had to go 3 weeks without due to AF and a yeast infection, now he feels my pain and says he will never make me go without again! We'll see! But, I don't really tell him when I think it's a good time to actually TTC vs. just getting busy for good times, I'm hoping that helps to keep the technical part out of it!

[alicenwonderland]

I think this happens with every couple. My DH and I have no children, as this is our first shot, and we've gone through that too. Fortunatley it goes in cycles. This cycle (when I got pregnant) Dh was feeling frisky, and we bded almost every day.

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

I agree with the other gals. I think this happens a lot when ttc. I think even couples that are generally very active get tired when they are bding to ttc. I have posted this same thing myself a few times.