[shauna0325]

My sister in law just found she's pregnant. They've been trying for TWO WEEKS! Not fair! I'm really happy for them and excited to have another baby in the family. But really, two weeks???

[tchelle]

I was just visiting with my friend who just had a baby and although I'm happy for her and her little girl is beautiful, I found out she was on B/C when she got pregnant. And here I am, haven't been on B/C for 6 months and still nothing. But then at the same time, our other friend has been trying for over 2 years, going to doctors & such and still hasn't been able to get pregnant (and her somewhat slutty sister had a baby about 4 months ago)

[OnesOnTheWay]

I guess it was just meant to be ;-) Congrats to them.

I definitely feel life is unfair......no, I'm going to say Mother Nature is unfair. Yes, I'm pissed too. I feel as if a huge trick has been played on me.

I do what I was suppose to do: graduate among top in class in HS, go to college and got my degree, had a succession of great careers. Never an itch, kick, pinch of a desire to have children until one morning, out of the blue, while driving to work at the ripe age of 43 a thought (voice) with such clarity says "you need to have a baby."

What? Where did that come from? It was never an idea, even a thought ever! Not only that, I get blessed with the desire so strongly that I made a huge mistake on the way: I got married to someone I liked (not loved) and cared for which eventually lead to hatred from him and a divorce. Despite the ulgy end of the marriage, I got my dream baby through adoption. That, I am very thankful for and praise God everyday for his generosity. But at the same time, that stupid urge, which should have gone away, is still there ever growing.

I still don't know God's plan. I think reconcilation, acknowledgement, acceptance are major goals. Since HS, at a military ball, I was asked by a friend to dance and with a touch of our hands we knew as clearly as if it was written in a book.

After so many years, the man I love with all my soul (and he, me) steps back into my life with all the shared regrets, the identical need to feel whole which came from the other, and the same soul shattering love that made us each run the first time, then tried to find each other, found each other, and with me running again (into a failed marriage). You see, that kind of love is so powerful and dangerous, you have to beyond strong to handle it. The first and second time, it washed over me to near drowning.

As these sad and wishful years passed, him taking my picture to Korea for years in the military, me vowing never to marry or date, we have finally accepted what was meant to be. We each had half of the other's heart, soul. It took a while, but we both found strength live with what should have been.

To many it sounds corny, but to others who have felt that powerful pulled that originated from one electrifying touch of the hand, which lead to the soul, heart, spirit being branded solidly together that your whole life is shaped with the other in mind. From the proses of Hamlet, 'There are more things in heaven and earth, than of dreamt of in your philosophy.' No words can explain life better.

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

Originally Posted by OnesOnTheWay

I guess it was just meant to be ;-) Congrats to them.

I have the same attitude. I get excited about bfps whether it takes two weeks or two years. Babies are blessings.

Try not to let it get to you. It took me so long to have Jeremy. We tried for quite some time to have him. I had two miscarriages and an ectopic before I finally conceived Jeremy. I feel blessed in my own way that Jeremy was not conceived easily. When he was born I couldn't stop looking at him. I couldn't set him down. He was even more amazing to me because of how much time I spent waiting for him.

[ashnichole2326]

That is beautiful I am so glad you got your baby! No matter what it took, you got him, and he's so adorable I don't think it's corny at all...sometimes life just happens...and in the end, you have to just take the good with the bad, and be thankful for the good things in life...like the chance to adopt. So you couldn't carry your child for 9 months, and give birth to him....what you could do is give a home and so much love to a child who needed you..that makes you an even stronger and even more loving mother than most.
I think people so often forget how many babies there are in this world who haven't got a stable home or family. That's what makes me so mad about all these women who don't take care of their kids, and bring them into a life of nothing but struggles and pain...while some of them do find a loving family...so many do not and it breaks my heart!
Your story has warmed my heart I will think of this all day.

[Wallflower]

Originally Posted by shauna0325

My sister in law just found she's pregnant. They've been trying for TWO WEEKS! Not fair! I'm really happy for them and excited to have another baby in the family. But really, two weeks???

It is great for them, but I know exactly how you feel! I have a few pregnant friends right now, a couple that I know it happened quickly for, and I definitely struggle with jealousy! We have been trying for 8 months now, 9 if you count 1 month of NTNP. So I know exactly how you feel! Our time will come!