When it comes to testing do you tend to brace for the worst

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #1 July 28th, 2009, 07:54 AM

Or stay positive until the very end?

I have to admit. I am not good at staying positive when it comes to testing. I tend to brace for the worst. I am better at staying positive for other people than I am for myself.

slpliz · #2 July 28th, 2009, 07:58 AM

I'm a pessimist so clearly, I expect the worst!

CandaceDianne · #3 July 28th, 2009, 08:06 AM

I haven't experinced testing yet (a loooong time ago before DH and I were married I did a lot of testing, expecting to get pg while on bcp

and we weren't ready). In general, I think/expect the worse. Although, it doesn't really make it any better when I am let down.

k8liz311 · #4 July 28th, 2009, 12:35 PM

I always expect the worse. I never ever ever expect to see a positive because I hate being disappointing.

sweatshirtgirl · #5 July 28th, 2009, 01:16 PM

Well, my first 2 kids were conceived in the very first month of trying, so this time, our first month, I just EXPECTED to be pregnant, lol. After BFNs, the next month, I expected NOT to be pregnant and was actually kind of depressed thinking it will never happen, lol. This month, I'm optimistic, but not convinced, lol! Usually I am the biggest pessimist EVER.

Coley · #6 July 28th, 2009, 01:30 PM

Since all I've ever seen are BFN's... I think I tend to expect the worst.

brookes630 · #7 July 28th, 2009, 02:00 PM

It's funny, we were TTC our DD, I never tested because I didn't want to be disappointed. When I was pretty sure that I was pg with her and finally did test, I covered up the test until the time was up, lol. This time around I have tested often and usually just expect it to be negative. I think that I've officially become a POASaholic!

DaDaLou · #8 July 28th, 2009, 10:30 PM

I expect it will be negative. It's not that I'm bracing for the worst, it's just that in my head it will never be positive. So when I do test, I get mad at myself for "wasting" money when I already know it's negative.

Good luck to those that have optimism. They say "what you think about you bring about!"

And also, here's hoping all us pessimists get a mind blowing

~ Christine ~ · #9 July 29th, 2009, 12:46 PM

It's funny - I always expect it to be positive!

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #10 July 29th, 2009, 02:01 PM

Boy we have a pessimistic bunch here. I think we should all get Christine's attitude. It seems to have worked for her.

~ Christine ~ · #11 July 30th, 2009, 06:53 AM

My boss is convinced that if you truly believe that good things will happen to you, they will. I don't know about that, but I try anyways!

Coley · #12 July 30th, 2009, 07:26 AM

That's how DH is. He's all about thinking positive. I know he's right, but it's hard when it's something this important.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #13 July 30th, 2009, 06:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Coley

That's how DH is. He's all about thinking positive. I know he's right, but it's hard when it's something this important.

I am the same way. I think it is just a self defense mechanism. You just don't want to be heart broken. I am going to have a good positive attitude this cycle though. I really am.

AmandaEliz · #14 July 30th, 2009, 06:33 PM

I'm not sure... I'm actually a little scared when I test most of the time. We lost 4 pregs before Ethan, so by the time I got preggo with him, all I could think was "how long will I get to keep this one."
I'm not stressed out this time, so I'm feeling really positive. My cycles have been regular this time & my LP has been MUCH longer, so I'm wondering if having a baby didn't kinda "fix" me. Ask me again in 2 years if I'm not preggo again & I'm afraid my attitude might be a little different.
I'm going to try to stay Miss Sunshine this time around though.

Wallflower · #15 July 30th, 2009, 08:43 PM

I guess I tend to expect the worst for the most part, although I think there is always a little part of me that believes I really could be! Overall, I am optimistic in that I KNOW it will happen for me eventually, but I feel like it might take a while. Of course, it's already been 8 months of trying, so maybe it's coming soon, right?