Do you and your dh/so have a lot in common?

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #1 August 11th, 2009, 07:16 AM

Are you two peas in a pod or are you total opposites?

Do you think having more things in common makes for a better relationship?

I think dh and I are opposites. When we first met I think I tried to be more like him but now that we have been together so long I don't the need to charm him as much. LOL.

I get upset sometimes because we don't have that much in common anymore. I mean we do but he likes different tv shows and movies than me, we like to do different things, and I just think we might enjoy each other more if we had more things we BOTH liked to do together. At the same time, clingy couples get on my nerves. I don't need to follow dh everywhere he goes and I really don't want him following me around doing everything I do with me either (not that I do anything but if I did.)

CandaceDianne · #2 August 11th, 2009, 07:23 AM

For the most part we have a lot in common. Our personalities are identical! That's where are bickering comes into play

, its never bad though, so don't think we are at each others' throat!!
We do just about everything together, we love hanging out with each other. DH always goes with me even if he doesnt like where we go.

I need to work harder at doing that for him. We aren't clingy persay, but we are affectionate and we are always together.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #3 August 11th, 2009, 07:29 AM

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Originally Posted by CandaceDianne

For the most part we have a lot in common. Our personalities are identical! That's where are bickering comes into play

, its never bad though, so don't think we are at each others' throat!!
We do just about everything together, we love hanging out with each other. DH always goes with me even if he doesnt like where we go.

I need to work harder at doing that for him. We aren't clingy persay, but we are affectionate and we are always together.

Well I think that is probably be cause you guys haven't been together for ages and ages like me. I used to love to hang out with dh and I would sit and watch sports with him just to be close to him. I think I even sort of liked watching sports for a while. Now I just hate it. If he is going to sit and watch sports I'd rather him just go do it by himself or go hang out at a friend's house.

sweatshirtgirl · #4 August 11th, 2009, 07:33 AM

DH and I are very alike. I mean we don't necessarily have the same exact interests, but we rarely disagree on the important things - finances, kids, marriage, sports, lol! etc... We watch the same tv shows for the most part, and enjoy doing the same things as a family.

We have our own interests too, I scrapbook, he likes to play softball and garden. But we are best friends, which I love, and sometimes it's scary how much we think alike!!

I think it's different for everybody - some relationships are great b/c the people are so different, some because they are so alike.

Coley · #5 August 11th, 2009, 07:39 AM

LOL!

We are similar in some ways and different in others. We like the same kinds of movies and tv shows for the most part. Don't get me wrong, he likes some movies that I think are total crap... but there you are.

In the areas where it's most important, I think we are similar.

Blue Eyes 409 · #6 August 11th, 2009, 07:42 AM

DH and I are night and day....lol I think for us it works out great because our diffrences are what makes us better together.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #7 August 11th, 2009, 07:50 AM

I am jealous of you gals that have a lot in common. I used to like being opposites and I still do in some ways but I really want to find more common interests. I do think we agree on the important things. It isn't that that gets to me. It is the little things like not liking the same TV shows and not liking to eat the same types of foods.

The other thing is I am a BIG DREAMER and dh is not. He always wants to stay in his comfort zone. I am constantly getting these big ideas (like JM) and he just doesn't. But, I think if I was paired off with someone high strung and crazy like me I would not like them. LOL. He is mellow and that helps calm me and keep me balanced. (gosh this is personal)

Arya · #8 August 11th, 2009, 07:56 AM

We have very similar personalities, but we also have different likes and dislikes. We both love watching movies, but different types! He will watch my kind of movies, but I have troubles watching his LOL. So far we do everything together because we don't live in the same countries so when we are together, we're always together when he's not at work. I'm sure that will change when I move here and I have my own vehicle and stuff like that. DF is very easy going, even when something bugs him about me, he won't say, just brushes it off. Me on the other hand, the whole different story. But I think our dynamics are just right.

Arya · #9 August 11th, 2009, 08:05 AM

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Originally Posted by pattyandthemoos

I am jealous of you gals that have a lot in common. I used to like being opposites and I still do in some ways but I really want to find more common interests. I do think we agree on the important things. It isn't that that gets to me. It is the little things like not liking the same TV shows and not liking to eat the same types of foods.

The other thing is I am a BIG DREAMER and dh is not. He always wants to stay in his comfort zone. I am constantly getting these big ideas (like JM) and he just doesn't. But, I think if I was paired off with someone high strung and crazy like me I would not like them. LOL. He is mellow and that helps calm me and keep me balanced. (gosh this is personal)

Patty, that's one of the things with us too, I'm a dreamer and he's just not, he's very grounded. Also, I love to cook and like to experiment with my food, and he's eat everything I make so he's good with that. And what can drive me crazy is his ability to be so patient and wait for sales when I just want the thing right now! hehe

DeepSouthMommy · #10 August 11th, 2009, 08:22 AM

Dh and I are very much alike, though not exactly because well, that might get kinda boring to be EXACTLY alike. The biggest way we differ is in how we unwind at the end of the day. I can sit in front of the tv or computer for a few minutes and I'm good to go, he however wants to sit for hours playing video games in order to unwind. I can't blame him, he does have an EXTREMELY stressful job, but it sucks because it's hard to take hours out of an evening and it not get to you eventually.

We do like to do pretty much everything together, but are very much alike in needing our own space and time. Yes, we are the couple that makes people sick because we love each other and we aren't afraid to show it or let people know.

We aren't super clingy to each other, but we do hold hands in public and like to kiss and hug each other. (We are decent about it though, no french kissing in public LOL)

I think that it helps your relationship to be kind of in the middle on your interests and being alike. We are able to find things that we both like to do, but at the same time have enough different interests that we don't have to do everything together (when we need our space) and it gives us even more to talk to the other about at the end of the day.