How long will/would you ttc before you would call it quits and/or get help?

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #1 August 11th, 2009, 07:21 AM

It is weird because I see a lot of gals get discouraged after 3-6 months. When I was ttc Jeremy I really thought it was supposed to take a year. I had always read if you don't get pregnant within a year to see your doctor so I just figured it took about a year. I think going into it with that attitude may have helped me in a way because my expectations were low.

Anyway, I am seriously thinking we will go see a fertility specialist once I get back from my vacation in September. I went to see my doctor I believe in September and he said he thought I would get pregnant on my own within a year with or without help. I had a referral to a specialist that I cancelled and I think I am just going to call them up and see if I can reschedule it. If they won't do that I will go back to my GYN and talk to him about my terrible periods and see if I can get a new referral at the same time.

CandaceDianne · #2 August 11th, 2009, 07:25 AM

Hmmm, probably 9 months? I have heard a year, but I have no patience. I think DH would want to wait at least a year though.

Arya · #3 August 11th, 2009, 07:41 AM

Since I'm 34 I think we would try for 6 months and if it doesn't work then try to get some help. the older you are you should look for help sooner, that's what I hear

DeepSouthMommy · #4 August 11th, 2009, 08:42 AM

A year at the most. I'm impatient and not getting any younger. Also we want a big family (as big as we can have for starting out in our 30's), so I don't want to waste too much time if we need help.

Coley · #5 August 11th, 2009, 08:58 AM

I'm also going to seek help at the 6 month mark due to my age.

I've read that if you are under 35 you should try for a year.

I will be 35 next month... which will also be our 6 month of trying... so I'm really hoping my birthday present will be that I don't need to see a doctor.

DeepSouthMommy · #6 August 11th, 2009, 09:12 AM

Btw, I'd like to add, that I won't give up TTC. Even if we reach a point that we feel that we won't be able to conceive on our own and start exploring options such as adoption, I still wouldn't give up.

CandaceDianne · #7 August 11th, 2009, 09:27 AM

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Originally Posted by DeepSouthGirl

Btw, I'd like to add, that I won't give up TTC. Even if we reach a point that we feel that we won't be able to conceive on our own and start exploring options such as adoption, I still wouldn't give up.

My DH's uncle (by blood) and aunt tried to conceive for years and had multiple failed IVF. Then, ironically, she got pregnant on their own while on bcp!!! So, even if you have to wait a while (hoping not!!!), miracles happen!!

Wallflower · #8 August 11th, 2009, 08:40 PM

Well, we have been trying for 9 months. We pretty much agreed that we would try for a year before getting help from a specialist (I'm 26). But we have just started to talk to my GP a little bit about it, so she has started us on a few basic things to try. If we get to November with no success, I may ask if we can be referred to a specialist.

NickieH · #9 August 12th, 2009, 06:17 AM

We will definitely be waiting at least a year before seeking help. But thats because I don't really like going to the doctor and I'm kind of afraid of what they will tell us.

shauna0325 · #10 August 12th, 2009, 06:53 AM

Hmm well, we didn't put any specific timeline. In late January of this year I saw a midwife that specializes in hormone issues, had extensive bloodwork and exam, etc. That was after being off BCP for about 15 months. I just decided that was enough. She figured out what issues I was dealing with and how to best treat them, and up until this cycle things have been progressively better. We also discussed the possibility that my husband may have a problem. She suggested we work on fixing my problems first, and then if I'm not pregnant in 6 months to a year, we might want to have him see someone. At this point, he is trying to either get a promotion or find a position somewhere else, and then once we have insurance I'll ask him to get tested. By then we will have been trying for aroung 2 yrs. Yikes! That sounds like forever. I always said I wanted one more baby before I turn 30, and I'm past that point now. I'll be 30 next March, and DH will be 31 in April. He said the other day that we should hurry up, we're not getting any younger.