[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

I left a message with the nurse earlier this morning explaining that I wanted to take the Ovidrel this time to make sure I ovulated on my left side. She called me back and explained that they don't have a way to know which side I ovulated from for sure but that if I had a lot of mature follicles that all of them would be released. She basically said I didn't need the Ovidrel.

After that I told her that I wasn't happy with my treatment plan and that I didn't think it was going to work. I am a very vocal person with my care. I got jerked around when I was trying to conceive Jeremy and had to go through 2 miscarriages and an ectopic before I found a doctor that would look into things for me. Then with my last pregnancy where my tube ruptured I wasn't vocal enough. I had called them before my tube ruptured explaining that I was having pain on my left side and wanting to know if I should go to ER. We talked for a while and the midwife said she really didn't think it was ectopic because I had a sac in my uterus. I had a confusing pregnancy because I had miscarried what was in my uterus and had an ectopic growing in my tube at the same time. I should have been more vocal with that. I get mad at myself all the time about that because if I had spoken up I would still have my tube. I knew something wasn't right.

So I guess because of my experiences I just have gotten where I speak up and say what I think and say what I want. I don't think this treatment plan is going to work. I have been ttc for two years. I do not believe ovulation is the problem. I ovulate every month. When I got pregnant last time it took 3 cycles. I have had to have ovulated on my left side at least some of the time over the last 20something cycles (I've lost count). I am sure I ovulated on my left side this last cycle. They saw a nice mature follicle there and I had a lot of o pains on that side. I don't think taking Clomid for three months is going to change anything. It is just going to prove what I already know that ovulation isn't the issue.

So I told the nurse I didn't want to waste another three months of my time. I have already been at this for two years. I want off this roller coaster. I don't want to cry anymore. I just want to be done. So she is scheduling me another consultation with the doctor for more aggressive treatment. I am going to do the Clomid this cycle since I have it but I am not getting my hopes up or putting much faith into this.

I will let you know how my consult goes. Sorry if I sound impatient but we really have been ttc a long time and I don't want to be patient anymore.

[TeresaSuperMama]

Good luck with your appointment and good for you for speaking up. I hope your doctor listens to you!

[Miss. Impatient Bevis]

I dont think you should have to be patient in any way whatsoever. Like you said you have already waited 2 years.
Keep us posted on the appointment.

[MountainMomma]

I hope you get some great results from your doctor very soon! Good luck!

I totally understand wanting to be done and not being willing to be patient anymore. I am planning on being pretty vocal the next time I see my RE. I just have to get Matt on board for the treatment I want to try. (IUI with injections) or at the very least Clomid and trigger.)

[CandaceDianne]

That stinks, I am really sorry! At least she is listening to your persistence and scheduling another consultation. Let us know how it goes and never feel bad about speaking your mind, especially when it comes to your health!

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

Your support means so much to me. I will let you know how it goes. It is scheduled for Nov 2.

[Momeejenjen]

I'm glad your vocal, I'm the same way b/c I've been burned my doctors and I know if I push I usually get what I know I need.. no one knows your body as well as you do!

I hope you get everything you need for that beautiful BFP soon!

[*tacii]

Good for you Patty! I really hope your doctor is able to come up with a plan that will work for you. You deserve it. I think I need to be more vocal as well.. coming up to 2 years and now I have to wait 6-12 months to get into the only fertility clinic in our city after 3 failed cycles of clomid. I want to cry.

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

Originally Posted by *tacii

Good for you Patty! I really hope your doctor is able to come up with a plan that will work for you. You deserve it. I think I need to be more vocal as well.. coming up to 2 years and now I have to wait 6-12 months to get into the only fertility clinic in our city after 3 failed cycles of clomid. I want to cry.

Why do you have to wait so long? That is ridiculous. This office got me in right away. I would call back and ask to be put on a standby list. I don't know if that is what they call it but basically ask for them to call you if there are any cancellations. I would also be very vocal and explain you have already been at this for almost two years. Sometimes you have to speak up for yourself.

Also can you try to find another clinic? Even if you have to drive I think it would be better than waiting around. I am driving about an hour to my doctor.

When I was trying to get Brandon diagnosed with autism I was put on a one year waiting list for the developmental pediatrician in our area. I drove to Lansing which at the time was about three hours away because they could get me in quicker. I ended up paying for that appt out of pocket because they didn't participate with my insurance but it was a heck of a lot better than sitting around waiting a year wondering what was wrong with my son.

[*tacii]

We don't have RE's in private clinics here, we just have one fertility clinic that does IUI's, IVF's etc. The next closest clinic is 3 hours away and they don't do all the treatments in that clinic. I've thought about a clinic in another part of Canada, even out of the province.. but only if we had to do IVF and we could afford to do IVF.

[Admin-pattyandthemoos]

Originally Posted by *tacii

We don't have RE's in private clinics here, we just have one fertility clinic that does IUI's, IVF's etc. The next closest clinic is 3 hours away and they don't do all the treatments in that clinic. I've thought about a clinic in another part of Canada, even out of the province.. but only if we had to do IVF and we could afford to do IVF.

I keep forgetting you are in Canada. How does IVF/IUI work there? Do they cover that for you or is it something you have to pay out of pocket?

[*tacii]

IVF/IUI isn't covered, so we would have to pay out of pocket for it. Fertility drugs are sometimes covered depending on the insurance company and what plan you have. Clomid isn't even covered for me under my husband's new benefit plan.

[jenine]

I'm glad you are going to get some answers and a treatment plan that will better address what is actually going on with you. You should be vocal about your care. I don't know why they always think we have the time and emotional stamina to wait for months on end to try something.

You are inspiring me to be more vocal about all the things my doctors brush off, Patti. Not just with TTC.

Keep us posted when you go for the appointment! I hope it goes well.

[::MummyToTwo::]

Good for you for being vocal! I agree that clomid isn't going to change anything if ovulation isn't the issue.

I hope you get some answers soon! TTC is so stressful let alone when infertility is involved.

[AlanaIris]

I'm glad you stood up to your Dr. I really hope your consult goes well and you come out of it with an awesome plan that works quickly!