So depressed/mad/sad/upset!!!!

Shalyn · #1 October 22nd, 2009, 06:22 PM

So we have been officially TTC now for 4 months although I have not been on bc since July 2008. Well last month I o'd earlier than I normally do and I didn't have any opk's until it was too late, so we totally missed ovulation. This month I was thinking ahead and getting down because dh is working out of town Mon, Tues and comes back Wed night.........well I will O sometime between Mon-Fri, w/ an average of cd15 which would be the night he normally comes home but he told me that next week he will be out of town until at least Thursday becuase they are really pushing to get this job done. I am SOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO mad/sad/upset, etc. I just feel like we have no chance..........I don't even know why I am charting, taking OPK's, etc.

I am PRAYING I don't O until Thursday or Friday this month, but I'm sure with my luck I'll O on Mon (cd13), Tues (cd14) or Wed (cd15) and we will have no chance AGAIN.

Sorry to be such a debbie downer but I just can't help it.

jenine · #2 October 22nd, 2009, 06:54 PM

That sucks, Shalyn! I'm sorry. Any way you can plan a hotel rendezvous to meet up with him???

HopefulMommy81 · #3 October 22nd, 2009, 06:54 PM

I'm so sorry you're having such a rough time today!!! I hate thinking you'd miss O, but if you BD Sunday night (or Monday AM before he leaves) and you O Wednesday or even maybe Thursday you might still be OK....but I will say prayers you don't O until Friday or later!!!! Good luck!

TeresaSuperMama · #4 October 22nd, 2009, 07:45 PM

((((Hugs))))) I am sorry. I know what it's like when your dh is away like that. It's really tough. I hope you O right when he is home!

Miss. Impatient Bevis · #5 October 22nd, 2009, 08:54 PM

Im sorry. I hope your body holds out until he gets home.

Admin-pattyandthemoos · #6 October 23rd, 2009, 04:47 AM

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Originally Posted by jenine

That sucks, Shalyn! I'm sorry. Any way you can plan a hotel rendezvous to meet up with him???

I was wondering the same thing. I don't know if it is possible but if you can go with him or slip over and see him that might work.

I know the last time I got my bfp I conceived when dh went out of town and I decided to go with. I remember I was so upset because he was going to Tennessee to see his best friend from Georgia and it was right around the same time that I would be ovulating. At first I was upset but then I decided to just go with. We slipped in the bathroom for a quickie and I am pretty sure that is when I got pregnant.

If there is anyway you can go see him for one of the days while he is away I think that would be great. If you can't there is not a whole lot you can do. I would just plan to bd like crazy before and after. Maybe you will ovulate earlier or later than you plan.

((HUGS))

Shalyn · #7 October 23rd, 2009, 05:04 AM

I really can't go see him..............he is working 2.5 hours away.........We have no family around to watch the girls plus I have to get my daughter to school in the morning by 7:50a.m. the next morning. Can't afford the gas and hotel right now either.

But thanks for the suggestion..........hopefully my body just waits but if not, I guess it's on to the next month

AlanaIris · #8 October 23rd, 2009, 05:53 AM

That has to be frustrating.

I hope your egg waits for DH!

ShawnaCAN · #9 October 23rd, 2009, 08:20 AM

Don't give up all hope! As long as you BD at some point while you have CM, sperm can live in your body up to 5 days waiting for ovulation to occur - and the 3 days after CM dries up are still potentially fertile too.

AngelM82 · #10 October 23rd, 2009, 08:40 AM

I hope you are able to catch that egg even if it is super close... Use preseed if you have to so that you make sure the spermies live as long as possible in there!

I just wanted to say I really know how you feel having to wait and feel like you have to have your TTC on hold for work or outside factors... I had to wait for over 6 months to get my DH back to try again after our miscarriage last year, that was the hardest thing I'll evere have to do. Any amount of being apart and waiting to try to start something like a family or add on to your family is just torture.

Good luck!!!

Tammyms · #11 October 23rd, 2009, 10:16 AM

Awww, I understand how you feel!! Dh and I both work out of town and I know how stressful it is to count and get to that feeling where you learn you won't be around each other. BD as much as you can before he leaves and we'll all hope you O really early or really late!