No Christmas BFP, no August baby

LoLo'sMama · #1 December 11th, 2009, 11:18 AM

AF arrived. Knew it was going to happen this am when my temp took a turn for the worse. AF hit this afternoon. Even though I knew it this morning, I am still pissed. No Christmas suprise. Now, I am getting the "oh honey, it took me three years to get my daughter, it will happen when it happens" CRAP. Not what I really wanted to hear. At least I am mad and not crying since I am still at work! Geez...this just stinks.

Mark me down for 7 months of TTC. Dr. appointment next Friday, so that's good I guess. I was so hoping that it would be a "first" prenatal appointment and not just my stupid annual. I know everyone has been through all of these emotions before and I never want to minimze other's struggles of TTC but right now I'm just mad.

slpliz · #2 December 11th, 2009, 11:28 AM

I'm sorry. I've been there so I understand (we tried for years before we had our first). I hope that this is your last AF for a LONG time!

wishfulgal · #3 December 11th, 2009, 11:28 AM

I'm sorry

You have a right to be mad, sad, whatever you are feeling is okay. I know it's hard.
I remember when TTC #1, I felt like everyone had lied to me my whole life. From my sex ed teacher to my friends, everyone acted like getting pregnant was the easiest thing in the world....honestly I've heard soooo many more people talking about NOT wanting to get pregnant than the other way around, I just assumed it would happen within the first couple of months....3 months max. Even though I have a baby now, I still get jealous when people announce they are pregnant and say it was a surprise or they weren't even trying....I'm like HOW on earth does that happen? I would actually love to be surprised instead of having to try so hard.

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and I really hope you are blessed with a New Years BFP.

LoLo'sMama · #4 December 11th, 2009, 11:36 AM

I already feel bad for throwing myself a pity party. Sorry about that. I did want to post back onto this thread to thank all of you ladies out there who helped me with charting my first month (esp Patty!!). I found it extremely informative and it gave me tons of info about my cycle. I learned a lot so I did want to say thanks for holding my hand and anwsering so many of my questions.

Tammyms · #5 December 11th, 2009, 11:40 AM

Don't feel bad! We all know it can take a long time, but we all also want to be the ones that it only takes a month or 2 and even though we know, it still hurts when it takes time. How about joining us all for the New Years BFP storm woe have brewing!!!

Mod-LilSunshine · #6 December 11th, 2009, 03:18 PM

Don't feel bad....we are here to support you! I really hope that you get a New Years bfp.

mrsdaiwa24 · #7 December 11th, 2009, 07:05 PM

I know how you feel. It seems like everyone is getting pregnant. I'm working with one woman who just gave birth and two more that have just announced their pregnancies. It's really tough.

Don't feel bad about having a "pity party". We've all been there, and have definitely done that. For almost two weeks, we convince ourselves that we might be pregnant....we look at our data and it confirms that pregnancy could definitely be a possibility....we have symptoms that scream out "yes, you're pregnant!". And then it all comes crashing down with the arrival of AF -- of course we're going to feel upset. So feel as crappy as you want to feel -- no one here is going to judge you. I prefer sobbing in my shower -- I find I get more privacy there.

Come on -- let's be cycle buddies (I'm on day 3) and get those New Year's BFPs! It'll be our New Year's resolution!

HopefulMommy81 · #8 December 11th, 2009, 10:10 PM

Jessica- Don't feel bad about your "pity party". We all have them, and we all got through the mad/sad/depressed roller coaster that is TTC. I really hope you get your New Year's BFP! Good luck!!!

Coley · #9 December 12th, 2009, 07:31 AM

You're absolutely entitled to your Pity Party and it can last as long as you need it to.

That's what we're here for... so you can cry and yell and scream and huff and puff as much as you want to and know that each and every one of us can relate to you in a way that other's cannot.

TTC can be an intensely trying experience and we all need a place where we can just dump all of the crazy up and down feelings that we experience during this journey. I am glad that you chose to come here to share some of those feelings.